what do i do?

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OK my problem is that i am a teen,and i have a mom,who always is the first to blame me for little thingslike missing things,ect .we fight constantly,and if i tell her how i feel she gets mad and i get in trouble.then i have a dad (not his fault) works nights and is either sleeping or working. but,after the fights with my mom i feel upset and depressed,and i dont know how to deal with it .i really want to have a good relationship with my mom ,because i love her dearly. plz any help is welcome.

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Sorry I guess you'll have to wait till you both grow up..

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Try writing her a letter explaining why you're upset, and have her write a letter to you explaining why shes upset. Sometimes writing things out helps the other communicate better.

talk 2 your mom 1 on 1. it works. just don't curse or fight w/her. Ok You only get one mom, so appreciate her

im really sorry i thought this was always the other way around
can you talk to your dad ask his advice maybe somthing is going on you dont know about
i would write my mom a letter be open and honest explain how you feel with out critcizing her

sometimes people are more open to things they read good luck

try telling her the truth
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I really can sympathize with you and it is sad that your mom is not mature enough to talk to you as a parent. that being said, you have to try and play the parent. So in your mind-right now- think about some ways in which you would like her to react to you. If it is calmly and not yelling, then practice and say the following (in your own words if you must):"Mom, first of all, it's really important to me that we try and have a better relationship. I feel like you get impatient with me and yell at me and when you do that, I feel that you don't even hear anything I say". If she interupts you, let her go on and then when she's finished, say again "Mom, I really want us both to be fair when we talk so please don't interupt me and I won't interupt you. I want you to stop being inpatient when we talk and at least let me say what I have to say. I feel like you take things out on me that have nothing to do with me and maybe that's because you're frustrated that Dad is gone at night, I don't know but I want you to be fair to me". Be specific about what you want from her. Being specific means saying exactly what you want not what you don't want. Examples: "Mom, please let me finish a sentence" or "Mom, please do not yell" or "Mom, please don't accuse me of something unless you have proof". Good luck and if you need more help, feel free to email me. I've been through years of counseling and have read hundreds of books to help you. :):) Bless your little heart, you can do it. It Takes Practice. Lots of practive!

I have to tell you that I have been on both sides of this.
I am a grandma now. If you stop and think for a minute about
your mom and when it is you two seem to fight the most, you
might realize she is concerned for you well being. If it is
something you want to do, ask her how would she approve or
allow you to do what ever it is. It might be that she is
worried about the time place, or circumstances. You maybe
could work it out with her. Parents always seem to be in the
way when you are young, but it will surprise you as you grow
older how smart your parents were.

Why is she blaming you? Have you done any of the things she blames you for? If you have then trust has to be earned and it will take time for your mom to trust you again. Now if you are innocent of the things your mom blames you for you are not the one to blame. Your mom could be projecting or blaming you for the situation at home---your fathr working long hours and not really being ther for her and the family and so you become tha target of her misguided situation (anger).
You can always tell her that you will help her find the object that has gotten lost(misplaced). If there are problems with memory there could be a mental problem.
I hope this can help you, but it must be difficult to endure especially when the "attack" is coming from someone you are suppose to love and she is suppose to love you back. If things get worse you both need to sit down and talk just keep in mind that feelings can get hurt when the truth is revealed.
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I am studying to become a counselor at UTPA.

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