I am really upset.. am i just overreacting..?
Question:
Well, i am a tgype of person that doesnt depend on looks but more, the only thing i can depend on and am trying to do excellent in is academics. Though today in science, (which is my best subject, my grades are all 100's except i have two 98's)my teacher said to anotehr girl, "so, know whats your science test score (since she mis-marked her paper)," and then the girl responded, "100." After, the teacher called that girl up to her desk and i heard things like, "you have all 100's" "nobody else has that" "does it come naturally" "do you try" .
And i dont know-- it hurt me for some reason- i think its because i try so hard, and i dont ever get recognized for anything. i am not in enrichment, advanced math, but i am one of the smartest person in my grade.. while theres this girl in enrichment who is absolutely dumb. its absolutely not fair. am i overreacting? What should i do?
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You sound a lot like I was at that age. I was always coming in second to one guy in particular. I would get 98s and 99s and he would just manage to beat me often enough that it really bothered me.
To be honest, in life we are given certain tools and talents and it's up to us to use them to our best ability. You have nothing to be ashamed of at all. In fact, you should be proud of yourself. and here's why:
You just described someone who seems to be able to get the top score almost every time without any effort. That's great. But in a lot of ways you are just that bit better than they, because you put your heart and soul into everything and persevere and win a lot of the time too. Your effort is what sets you apart. I know that feeling so well. One day you will look back and tell yourself that you always did your best, and I have no doubt that you will go very far in life.
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Yea typical little girl.
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You need to let it go. Holding onto these feelings isn't hurting anyone but yourself. Tomorrow is another day. Do the best you can each day and ENJOY YOUR LIFE. Don't get hung up on who is the best at what-ENJOY each moment! You are doing great in school now! Don't stop--keep doing your best.
You know your smart. For now don't worry! Later you will be making lots of $$ and living Good. While your teacher will have a meager retirement and that other kid will be waiting in line at the food stamp office.
I think you are. You should be getting good grades for you and not to please other people. Who cares if he complemented another student.
be happy that you got a compliment from a teacher, and keep up the good work!
yes , you are, you know you are smart, do not ever let anyone bring you down , who gives a crap. get over it. who cares.
Oh well I wouldnt worry about it!! As long as ur gettin good grades who cares what ne teacher is gonna think!! Ur gonna be outta the class soon!! Think of it that way!! He doesnt needa compliment u neways!! As long as ur family is proud, and ur proud thats all that matters!! And ur teacher might even think it, but he 4gets to tell u!! The girl hes complimenting needs compliments to get the grades,becuz maybe she just brought her grade up, and hes given her encouragement to keep it up!!
Just keep up your good work and good grades and you will do better than the other person in the long run; and you will be able to get into the better colleges, too. Sometimes teachers take for granted the kids who always do well and make a fuss over those who haven't done well, but do better once in a while--it''s a surprise. But don't let that discourage you. You know how good you are.
Probably overreacting. Just keep doing your best, but do it for yourself.
Have you ever asked your Guidance counselor these questions that's what she is there for. Plus some students do not need verbal stroking to get good grades(like you) others sometimes need all the stroking the teacher can think of to keep their grades in a good place( this other girl?)Be pleased with yourself, and let it be enough for you to know how smart you are. But I would still ask the guidance counselor.
You are over reacting. The teacher probably just had a 'adhd' moment (lol) and forgot about you and payed more attention the "THE 100"
Lady listen. I think you are not overreacting. It is just that, that you think you should be noticed because you do good. A lot of people do good, but they aren't recognized. You should be happy that you are this smart. Not all people are like this. I think you should shrug this incident off and maybe treat yourself for doing so good.
Sometimes in life you will not get recognized by your peers for various reasons. Sometimes you need to do things for yourself. These are your standards anything less is unacceptable not because there is a prize but because thats who you are. Those that appreciate that will always know you better and gain those that dont will always lose out.
Dont let it get to you. The importance is that your academics sets the course for your life expierence, expectations and goals. Dont lower your standards just for the sake of recognition your day will come with you reach your dreams sooner than most people. Stay confident, stay the course.
It's ok to be upset, Talk to your parents and teachers, you don't have to say "hey what about me" type thing, just bring up natural like and don't worry, you are being noticed and if not really, you will be. If people come up to you for help on homework, than, even if you don't recognize it as being so, you are being recognized, people know you're smart and you can help them.
You are way too hard on yourself! It sounds like you are smart and you try your best. I think you know that. That's all that matters. I went through high school virtually unnoticed. I went to a party one year with a friend. I was a Junior and all the kids at the party went to my school and had been in the same school with me since elmentary school. You would think they would recognize me but I couldn't tell you how many people at that party asked me what school I went to. Teenagers are very self centered. They live in their own world and see things through their eyes only. Stop looking for approval from others and start to appreciate yourself. You don't need other people to tell you how smart and pretty you are. You already know it.
Don't take it so much to heart. Imagine what it must be like to get the top marks for an exam' and told in front of the class, " you must have cheated" They assessed me again (I increased my score). Not everything is going to go your way. You may never get the recognition you feel that you deserve. Take the knocks and do better. Not because you want a pat on the head or you think someone is getting something that you think they don't deserve, but you do. Do things for yourself. It won't matter that much in a hundred years from now..will it?
I now how you feel. I try really hard to be recognized in my job and I do a lot to help people, but sometimes I am not recognized. Others will even get credit for things that I have done. I think it has to do with my personality. I am relatively quiet and reserved. So, what happens is the people who are more outgoing will get more attention. I think what has helped me a little is to force myself to be more outgoing. When we are asked to take on something extra in our work and it is something that I know I am good at, I volunteer to do it. I 've gotten better at speaking up for myself. This has helped somewhat to get recognized. And, I give myself credit for my accomplishments, rather than letting anyone take it away. Try to stand up for yourself more. Realize that even if you get overlooked ( which still will happen occasionally) understand that you are doing great things and that you will accomplish a lot. Success usually is a direct reflection of what effort we put into our work. There are a lot of people out there who are very smart, but not too successful due to the fact that they think their smarts are enough to carry them.
Yes, you are overreacting, but this is not an unusual reaction, and as you grow older and gain more self-confidence, you will learn how to not be hurt by somebody else being recognized while you are not. For what it is worth, this is also very common in adults where somebody (for example in a job environment) gets his feelings hurt when he wasn't recognized and somebody else was.
You might also get active in a church and church youth group if you are not already. The more you learn about our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, the more comfortable you will feel with not being the focus and having people's attention elsewhere. Again, this isn't a huge deal, just part of the normal maturing process.
If you are that smart academically, then I have no doubt you will be a success in life and trust me, you will get plenty of accolades in the future.
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Good luck and God Bless!
ask urself this. y do u care so much about what other ppl think of you ? How is it goin 2 change ur life really ? I mean, u have good grades, u admit u are really smart, u are trying hard and u are proud of urself, u set goals and achieve them. How does some other girl fit into this ? Believe me, in ur life, there are going to be hundreds of girls like that and at the end of the day you will have to make a choice : either you care about every single one of them and get hurt every time OR u do you, u try ur best and go somewhere in life regardless of where this girl is goin 2 end up. Dont ever expect other ppl 2 take care of you, it is your duty to take care of urself. Relying on ppl's approval will get you nowhere. Deep down i know u know dat cuz ur asking the question. Instead of being jealous, u shud see her has a challenge, she cud push u 2 performing better, im not saying to ruin her chances like lisa simpson did. There is nothing bad with friendly competition. And u never know, maybe u'll end up being her boss someday.. Dont worry about it, Live your life to the fullest and alwayz remember, if there something that you are stressing about and it isnt absolutely necessary in your life, 4get about it, focus on what u truly need.
Sorry for the long response. Lol but i hope that helped. And 2 answer ur question plain and simple. yes u are overreacting and u shud 4get about this girl and concentrate on urself.
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I feel for you. When I was in elementary school, I was always 4th in academics. We had recognition for the top 3, and I was always just an honourable mention. I never got an award.
Life is not always fair. Learn to praise yourself and give yourself a pat on the back. You are the most important person to yourself and therefore your own recognition is of most value. Trust in yourself.
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