What can I do about my friend?

Question:

My friend has well negleted me lately. We used to be BFF but then she got to be friends with some "bad" people. Im the all A-ish kinda person and she used to be too. Until she became friends with some other people at a youth group. She went one day bc her mom made her and now she goes just bc she is friends with the "bad" kids there. I went a few times but I really dont like the people there. My BFF goes bc of the ppl, etc. I went bc of the God part of it, etc. My friend is the kinda person that bugs you if you hang out with her too much bc she is super judgemental and "clingy" and negative. I've never let it bother me before b.c i'm kinda easy going but nobody at school has ever been BFF with her before b/c of that so that's why she is so desperate for friends. I am the kinda person who doesn't speak her mind much, so is there a poite way to say, hey talk to me! Bc she won't talk to me at school and she never answers my aim unless there is a benifit for her. Help!

Answers:
Some friend she is. Trust me I went thru da same **** in middle school. This ***** ain't worth it. I use to be like you. A lil shy. I look back n it just pisses me off how I let ppl like her walk all over me. U gotta be cool and set her straight. Make some new friends n start ignoring her. When she confronts 2 u about it, u can just tell well u've been doin the same thing to me n u just ain't worth it if ur only gonna be my friend so that u can benefit from me then I ain't goona deal wit it no more cuz u know wat. I don't have to..(walk away)

Other Answers:
hi

She doesn't sound like someone you should be friends with. Find some new friends and forget about her. I know it sounds easier said than done, but soon, you'll forget all about her. She's not worth it.

She is going through a growing phase and it is cool
to be with bad kids. She knows that there aren't to
many real friends. Sounds like your a super person and
be true to yourself. Let her know you don't like it
when she only wants to be with you for her benefit.
Sometimes the key is letting that person know how
you feel. If you can't talk to her send her a card
that accents her better qualities and shows you do
care about her with a continue to pray for her.
Keep working on goals in school. Continue with your
other friends and sometimes when you set something
free it comes back to you, and if not it wasn't
meant to be.

if u've tried talking to her and she only responds when it's for her benefit then she's not a good friend, there's a sayin that goes "freinds come and they go" so i guess you'll have to let her go, she'll soon realize that it was her loss and another's gain (she lost a good friend)or u never know maybe she'll come around after realizing how stupid she's been and ask for forgiveness, just remember one thing tho "all good things must come to and end" whether you like or not, this happened for a good reason maybe you won't see it now but you will eventually.

Sounds like you need to give up on your friendship with her, people like that can't be friends with keeners unless they can use you for something.

Maybe you need to consider things from your friends point of view. You say she's someone who doesn't have many friends because of her personality? Well you think she doesn't know this, but I'll bet she knows more than you think. So she finds these people who want to let her hang out with them. Why wouldn't she want to? You've basically written her off. You want to get her to talk to you but you say she's only in the friendship (with you) for 'her own benefit'. She probably knows what you think of her and maybe instead of being angry and hurt over her choice of friends you should talk with her. Just call her up and tell her what's on your mind. Don't start a fight, that's pointless and will get you no where. Just tell her how you feel and listen to what she has to say. Be honest, but listen to the other side with an open mind. Friends are worth keeping. Specially if they're good ones.
Good luck!

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