I am a Cutter How can I stop?
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Try and think what makes you want to do it..
Is it because you feel you are not attractive and no-one loves you?
That can all change in a day! you are always attractive to someone and luckily different people are attracted to different things so one person may not find you attractive at all, whereas another could think you are damn sexy.
Why don't you go travelling with a friend, go to Auz its too easy to enjoy yourself there! Don't even think about suicide there's so much to do & see to even think about it! if you are definately going to top yourself think about taking a big loan out from the bank and going off somewhere you may change your mind!
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well if you hit the right vein, you'll die. that'll stop you.
seriously though, it saddens me to hear things like this. I have been there, you just have to find it within you to get past it.
I've never been there, so maybee I don't understand, but try to see all the positives in life. And I guarentee you are not ugly.
I used to be a cutter. I know that there is nothing that anybody can say or do to make you think that you are pretty and I'm sure that people love you a lot! I started going to therapy and talked about my problem's with people that I knew I could trust. Or, iF you Feel like you can't trust anyone, keep a journal. When you Feel like cutting, take a walk. Try to get some type oF therapy. You need to cut yourselF to Feel better! People do love you. Friends, Family and everyone on here cares about you. And i'm sure that you are beautiFul. Email me sometime iF you ever want to talk at kiwi45331@yahoo.com!
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Well, I am sorry you don't think you're pretty-that's because you're comparing yourself to other, don't! There will always be prettier and uglier than you! Second, If you're younger, you probably have some surging hormones which peak at the ages of 16 to 28 for women so that can cause a lot of ups and downs. Thirdly, you may suffer from Bi-Polar disorder but maybe a mild case. It's more common than we all think. I think a therapist would be soooo helpful. Think about it, if your car broke down, would you wonder why or would you go get it fixed? So why do we all not fix our heads but we fix everything else? A therapist is an amazing tool that is readily available to everyone. They just help to sort out thoughts and give you the tools to think differently which can make for an amazing outcome. You are self sabotaging because you feel like a victim. Why? I don't know without talking to you about your past but a therapist can help you be in control of your thoughts and you will be on your way. The younger and sooner you go, the better! Best wishes and stay strong and focussed on being a great human being that stands for something. You can do it. The power and control is in your hands, not someone elses.
I know this isn't what you want to hear but you need to seek professional help. You need to find a counselor you trust who will allow you to feel safe, accepted and cared for.
A counselor can help you improve you're self-esteem and self-image (that seems to me to be your biggest issue, without knowing anything else about you). A counselor can also help you work through some of the other issues that might be contributing to your low self-esteem (ex: an abusive relationship, poor parenting, etc.)
Right now you need to find some other way to satisfy your needs when you feel like cutting. For example, write in a journal or take a walk or meditate or do yoga or anything else whenever you get the urge to cut.
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Does it seem easier to deal with the pain you inflict with cutting? Do you feel that this is a way to have some form of control over your life? Are you being abused? Sometimes when a person has had a lot of pain and abuse in life, he or she may have been told that he/she is stupid, ugly, no good, not fit for anything, worthless, retarded, and any other put down that can be come up with.
Thing that I am learning, there are two types of personalities in this situation.the accepter, and the refuser. The accepter hears the insults and gets beat down enough that they start accepting what they are being told as the truth.if you are told that you are worthless, a waste of air, then it stands to reason that there would be an instinct to hurt yourself, to punish yourself for suposedly being the things that you have been told. As I said before as well, cutting gives you control over a situation that you otherwise have no control over as well.
The second personality I call the refuser.I refuse to believe what is being said about me, I AM worthy to live, I do deserve to be treated with respect, I do NOT have to believe you when you tell me that I am stupid, that I deserve to die.
It is about mindset dear one. I am working through some issues my self at this moment concerning past abuse, so I know how it feels. The thing is, I am not going to lay down and let it beat me. I will not give anyone power over me except the LORD.
GOD BLESS YOU and best of luck..if I can help, drop me an email through my profile page.
I used to know a little girl that banged her head n the pavement over and over again. I got her a doll, named it the one she hated most and let her put it under tires, dunk it in the pool, ram it with her bike and so on. WHen not in use we put the doll in the freezer. One day she quit pounding her head, quit needing the doll..after therapy.
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why do u do that to ur self? if u need to talk to someone here is my e-mail darykid33@yahoo.com
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BOBBY
I am a recovered cutter of two years. It takes time. wanna talk more email me.
stop cutting/get help/do you want to have all those scars right now that you do have to show off later to your kids? why add more? get help asap
You should try to get a more positive out look on life,and then you should find a different way to relieve your stress. Like do yoga, go for a run, meditate, listen to music, punch a pillow (not a wall). Talk to someone.
You should get help fast,, if you can't, then tell your close friends and let them help you
It's very difficult to stop cutting once you've started. If you're cutting for attention, you should stop immediately. If it's more than that, you should try to redirect your mind when the urge strikes. Call your friends, go work out, go shopping, listen to music, write down your feelings, go for a drive---anything you like to do, and anything to get your mind off of cutting. Another thing, take time to cry and let out the emotional pain that way, instead of using the razor.
http://www.palace.net/~llama/psych/injury.html
http://www.coolnurse.com/self-injury.htm
What do you want out of life? You must cut the root of the pain to stop the physical pain you induce to cover up the real problem.
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