How can I deal with coworker who is trying to cause me trouble but is insidous and manipulative?

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I have suspected that this coworker has been trying to make my life difficult for some time - got a tip of the ice berg this past week when another coworker told me about an incident. The problem is, this woman is extemely sneaky - so I have nothing concrete to go on, but from the things I do know now, I am sure she has been doing other things behind my back. I have tried to be nice to her, but it doesn't seem to make any difference - one of my other coworkers actually saved her from getting fired and her response was that she didn't ask him to do it and then she tried to get him fired and runs him down behind his back every chance she gets! I think you are getting the idea of the kind of person she is. I am getting really stressed out at work - not sure what else I can do - I love my job and don't want to change it - I know talking to her would probably only provoke her and she would be worse than ever! I am going to counseling because of this - any other ideas?

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Complain to management.
I sympathize. You are working in a poisoned workplace. The stress from this kind of person can be crushing and take all the good feelings of accomplishment and interest out of the workplace.
I worked with a great team of people at one workplace and one of these people was hired. Within a year, half of the people quit.(myself included) The person was fired right after I left.
People like that are usually VERY good at manipulating managers. If you wind up having to quit, make SURE to specify the bad behavior as your cause for leaving, in terms that relate to those actions hindering your ability to do your job.

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Sue the company for failure to provide a safe and harassment free working environment.

Sleep with her, always works for me, she'll be nice as pie after.

Just make you boss aware of her intentions. Then only concern yourself with your job. As long as you meet the goal set forth by your boos then you are golden. Eventually she'll fail and when she does nobody will speak up for her in her defense. I've had the same problems here.

I would try to form an alliance with the other people you work with.when she tries to do something against ANYONE~stand behind each other! She is NOTHING but a bully in the work force.I don't know.I know I wouldn't stoop to her level.but try gaining strength with other workers.Walk away when you can..AND COUNT TO 10.ALOT!

It is so hard to deal with people like this. Try talking to your other co-workers to try to come up with a plan. Maybe you as a group can confront this individual or go to management. If nothing works then unfortuantly all you can do is avoid her, ignore her or you could always kill her with kindness. I usually feal sorry for people like this because it must suck to be that person. Good luck.

Your co-worker sounds like a Butt-munch!

He he he.

Seriously, all joking aside- she sounds conniving. I am sorry that you are having to deal with this piglet. Keep your chin up. Some people are just @ssholes. They really do disgust me, and I fail to understand what purpose they serve on this ******* earth.they're pond scum.

You might find solace in reading "Nasty People and how to deal with them" by Jay Carter. This books talks about people just like your nefarious sow of a co-porker I MEAN co-worker.

Good luck. You deserve to have a work place where you have peace of mind. Hopefully, this hog won't last long in your place of employment.

I would ignore her since any retaliation on your part would look bad. Also, and I know that this might be hard since I too, deal with the same type of person, try keeping your mind on your work and notify management when she does something serious (otherwise, reporting everything that she does will make you known as the fink and your manager will probably stop listening to you). Besides, the woman probably loves the attention. If people stop paying attention to her, she might change or do something that everyone will notice, thereby incriminating herself. Don't worry too much about her since she will probably get what she deserves in the end.

I would suggest trying to get to know her, find out if there's family problems, trouble with parents or husband/boyfriend.
If so try to be friendly and to understand.
If all else fails have a not so friendly talk sometime after work, or tell your manger/boss.

sleep with her

I have dealed with people like this and i have found that ignoring her like another person posted would be the best thing to do, because if you react to her, it may make it look bad on you because she is so manipulative and these type of people have a way of getting a way with it for a while, but i honestly feel that what goes around will eventially come ar ound, so be patient, they will cath on to her sooner or later,

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