could he have a mental illness?


Question:
I was recently dating this guy and we really liked each other. But he had some problems. He would listen to music that makes him cry and would randomly cry right in front of me. Then the next minute he is almost completely okay. On all the days we hung out he loved to go out and go for walks and just enjoyed nature and our surroundings. He seemed to love to be with me. He told me that I was everything he was looking for in a girl. Everything he wanted and I really believed him. Then there are these times where he goes and gets stoned or drunk to get away from it all. Yet there are these other times where he tells me that he wants to just get better. One day we went out and he picked me up and then we hung out the whole day he said how he loves me and wants to be with me. Then the next day he is having doubts as to if we would work out. He also dropped out of school due to some learning problems. And now we are not together and he isn't calling me. What could be his problem? thanks!

Answers:
Trade him in for a more stable model.

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If your not together with him what do you care what his problem is. Get over it and move on.

He might be suffering from severe depression. His symptoms sound like he needs at the very least to talk to someone about what is going on, and at the worst maybe medication to help him cope with things a bit better. Try convincing him to talk to someone, and if he refuses then get him to talk to you at least! Another thing that could be wrong is Bi-Polar Disorder, where they change rapidly from happy to sad or vice versa.in either case a trip to the doc is called for

Sounds like it, but no one can really diagnose some one over the Internet or by third person. He needs to get some proper advise, and you too if you plan to make this a long term thing

I dated a guy like that its called ALCOHOLISM and a big DRUG PROBLEM. I would get out before you get hurt. I learned the hard way.

Sounds like he has depression.

mmmmmmmmm try to find out what is his problem , y isnt he calling u , try to know from his friends that whats going on in his world why isnt he calling u , send messages to him through his friend that u miss him may be then calls u , anyways , take care , byeeeeeeeeeeeee

there are some people who have this kind of behaviour. he may be perfectly ok but you have to decide if you can tolerate this person.

How do you define 'mental illness'? It could be that this guy is just afraid of commitment and the way he feels..it could be that he is just an emotional person.then again maybe he has got issues.it sounds to me like you do care about him.so have you tried talking to him..? Seems like such an easy thing to do when you think about it yet you would be surprised how many people dont even consider it an option.so wrapped up they are in their own lives..just a suggestion.get him to talk to you if you can..if not and he genuinely doesnt want to see you then you are just going to have to respect his wishes and move on.no matter how hard it may be.good luck!

mental problems- is he on meds.

He sounds like he is having mental health problems; what they are I'm not sure.

They will affect you and should you decide to pursue this relationship, I urge you to make sure you know what the state of his mental health is and that you get a brutally realistic forecast of what issues would exist in your life. The state of treatment for mental illness is a far cry from what it is for physical illnesses and they are much harder to live with.

He may not be able to help the wild rollercoaster ride he's giving you or maybe he can still make some choices, but he might blame the illness. It would be a hard life.
(I just wanted to make sure you understand that.)

i think he's having some commitment problems. tyr talking to himm..

It sounds like he dosent know what he wants.Kinda reminds me of a person who has Bi polar.Sounds like you were on a rolar coaster with him.Hope this helps and Good Luck .

If you're not together.why worry?
Yes, you can still care for his safety and well-being, but if you are-then do something about it. Call him, share your concerns and be a friend if you wish.
Yes, it does sound like he needs some help. It could be depression or bi-polar disorder or a number of other things.
If any of this is the case, then he needs help that's he's obviously not gotten since his behaviours are erratic.
You could be saving his life and/or future.

Maybe you crossed paths so you could help this person.
He's obviously still on your mind for a reason.

:)

he sounds like he is Bi-polar hes up one minute down the next. He needs a mood stablizier

maybe, more like a lack of self esteem and confidence , be patient if you really are fond of him - if you don't want the hassle then leave the relationship now!

It sounds to me like wehter or not he has a mental illness that he is not stable nor consistent. why would you want that kind of chaos in your life?

I think his problem is- exactly that- his problem. You can care about him, but you don't have to take this on. To be completely honest until he reaches some level of stability you should be grateful he is not calling.

Well, he seems to be having some insecurity. If you dont wanna take pains , better get out of it before its late. otherwise try n 'nurse him back to normality'(?)

Sounds like a closet homosexual. I mean come on, what man cries at the drop of a hat ?

LOL

he may have depression

He's young and just sounds like most young people. If he has learning probs he may have dyslexia or something, hardly a mental illness!He isnt neccessarily an alchoholic, thats an extreme assumption but drinking and pot smoking could lead him to think he loves you one day and not the next. Th crying could just be that he is emotional or depressed after drinking/smoking. God, when I was 14 I drank and smoked ciggies. I didnt have a "problem" I just didnt live an extremely sheltered life. My parents trusted me to be able to satisfy my curiosity wihout going overboard. Give the poor bloke a break, he probably just went off you and doesnt feel the need to contact you anymore,dont brand him just cos of that. Blokes will say anything to get their way it doesnt make them mental cases.

it could be nothing just ,him being his self!!

SO THAT IS WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT ME HUH? I THOUGHT WE HAD SOMETHING SPECIAL.. BUT NOW. I KNOW THE TRUTH... MY LIFE IS OVER! PLEASE SEE THAT MY SON GETS ALL OF MY THINGS!



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