what do you do if your 9yr old step son told you he was bisexual and wanted to wear a dress and makup?


Question:
Iam a 24yr bi father, and for the first time a step father of two my wife is a full bisexual and i have never told my kids i was bi or that their mother was two. And now recently my son says he is bi courrious and wants us to help him with his urge to wear girls cloths as well as makeup. what do you think i should do being a father is somthing new to me.?

Answers:
Im Pretty Open Minded.. But I Wont Touch This W An 11 Foot Pole. Im Glad I Dont Live At Your House.. Good Luck



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24yr bi father
wife is a full bisexual
Do Ya THINK MEBBE This Kid Never Had A CHANCE

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AND It Cost Ya 5 PTs

When Will This Madness End?.

Other Answers:
I'm thinking the heart attack option would be looking pretty good.

Take him to a priest or minister for some counselling.

I would guess this is probably a phase. he most likely saw something on tv that sparked his intrest. I would allow him to do as he pleases in the house, but explain to hi9m that at his age it is not appropriate to act out this way at school and such.

Get him some counseling

Well have you talked to him about it? Try to find out if it is curiosity or if he really feels that way. I would see how he answers. It is probably a play on his confusion of his current living situations and he is just trying to sort through things. You need to get him some professional counseling to make sure he doesn't walk around in this state of confusion and get a non biased person that is not related in any way to help him with his finding answers.
Talk talk talk. to him.

Well we all know how kids minds can get just sit him down and talk to him because you are the one you told your family you were bi and maybe ur son saying that he is bi because he has males for friends

If you don't want your child getting into that, just say "No". It's okay to give children boundaries. In the mean time, sounds like your kid wants some attention. Spend some time with him, and try to set a proper example of masculinity.

I would allow him to do as he pleases. Otherwise, he is just going to get more curious or might even develop an obsession. He is too young to know what he's talking about, just let him play.

Hi there, I would like to offer a more enlightened answer:

First of all if you feel there is something wrong about being bisexual then you will communicate this experience to your child. I think this child is on some level threatening your secret and you feel you have to "correct" him, that way you can "correct" yourself as well.

I think your first step in helping your son should be to accept and acknowledge your own feelings. I feel that on some level you feel that you have created a monster? I think for the sake of your boy you should help yourself to accept what you feel and what you are. By that I don't mean that you should go out there and have sex with men. Just to be true to what you feel.

By the way it's normal for children to experiment in role playing. He wants to see if he is a boy or a girl and what it means to be boy or the girl. I think it's good that you have him talking to a therapist and to offer him a good example. I have plenty of friends that are bisexual and they lead fulfilling lives.

Remember the only thing that a child really needs is to feel loved and accepted for what he really is. If you give him that than you've done the best possible job as a parent!

Chin up!

tell him you love him unconditionally. it is the best thing you can do. in many ways, your son is more enlightened, loving, tolerant, and accepting, at nine years old, than most people in the world are. embrace it.



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