My Boyfriend is a slob?
Question:
I'm not prepared to mother him as that will just excuse his behaviour.I Have told him he's a slob and he laughs. It's such a turn off.I'm at the end of my teather... any suggestions?
Answers:
Get his mom round to have a word, we all know they don't like to p-i-s-s off their moms!!
Other Answers:
Okay. Let me be the first to be mean in a nice way. It took three children before you realized that he was a slop. Dirty sex really turned you on.
Bottom line: You can't change him. You can only change yourself. If you are not going to mother hime, and I don't suggest that you do that. Everyone will tell you that you are a fool, but haven't we all done foolish things. You are brave to post such a question.
You may try just talking to him, and when he laughs, walk away and keep walking. He may come around if he sees you are serious. He definitely won't change if you show that you will continue tolerating this madness.
Men marry women hoping they will never change. Women marry men hoping to change them. You wanted him once.
as he got a big willey ?
DUMP HIM
How in the World did you even have 3 kids with him -- yuck.
sorry love, you won't change him , and from bitter experience i can tell you he will get worse with age!!
You should shower with him and make sure he gets clean
kids or not if u dont wanna be with someone u cant stay with them regardless
u knew he was like this before u married him,and before u had children.these r the type of men that mom does everything for them all their lifes,then their woman does the same.sorry to tell u but part of it is your fault.
Sometimes, you just can't change an ole dog!
Tell how his personal habits are affecting you and that you can't go on with someone who refuses to take showers or keep up his personal appearance, I hate to see a man or be around a man who does not have good personal hygiene, that is a totally turn off to all women and I don't see how you can stand to be around him.
Whatever attracted you to him in the first place & you have 3 kids by him , well I bet that was nice for you getting that close to a human dump!
go out with ur mates and leave him to look after the kids
Tell him: "Darling, you know I love you! But as long as you do not obey me and stop being a slob you will never have my sex and I will never cook anything for you again"
My girlfriend is exactly the same. We have 2 children and because of her slobbishness I ended up breaking my little girls leg.
Tried all sorts to get her to change but I might as well turn round and talk to the dog or the wall for all the response I get from her.
I sympathise completely
The bull you are asking us not to say, is the bull you need to listen to.
Do you really think he gives a .. about you or your kids?
that is the question.
You deserve respect, and to get respect you have to start respecting yourself. Have standards, if your friends and family dont meet them, dont see them. its that simple they will either elarn or move on, but either way you win.
Everyone deserves to meet someone they love, cherish and spend time together, you dont deserve a man who obviously doesnt care, or the man doesnt deserve you. Even if you love him tell him your throwing him out,l it could be that he realises his mistakes.Obviously this is an empty threat, just to see what is response is.
Good luck
Leave him.
Ihad a friend wh withheld sex whenever she wanted something. I'd give it a try - no sex unless you're clean, mate!
Don't tell him he's slob. Because then he loughs and it makes him feel "manly" and "powerful".
Think of something else. Don't ask for him to become "Not slob" he doesn't understand what it means. Ask for simple things one at a time. It will take a lot of patience. (In my bf case - it was dirty socks left under the chair. He'd say "but they don't smell, I changed them today" I'd say "I know they don't smell. I just don't like the look of socks under the chair. Please.") One thing at a time.
Unfortunatelly, you missed the time when they are most "traineabe"...
He will never change to meet your standards of cleanliness. He'll alway be on a sloppy side, but he can get better and you should give him credit for this, when he does.
Maybe tell him that he's setting a bad example for the kids (not in front of the kids, though)
Send him on a cruise by himself and while he's away wash his car, pick up his clothes and wash them like 3X, buy him a new pair of jeans, and buy a pool or hot tub that way its like a huge bathtub. or u could just send the kids away to his mom's house for a night, turn off cellphones, computers,and unplug the phone that way there won't be any distractions and then sit him down and talk 2 him.
hope that u find someway!!
Put his clothes in the wash when he is asleep. In the daytime, put a clothespeg on your nose and when he asks, tell him it's to kill the stench. Point out that if he doesn't wash, he will develop boils and skin fungus.
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