Virgin PAIN?

Question: I recently got married and have not been able to have intercourse with my husband because of the pain. It has been three weeks now and we have used lubricant and tried many times, but I feel a burning sensation and pain as soon as he touches me. Is this normal? What can I do? Did it hurt as much for you (women only)? Please help! It's very important to me! THANKS! :-)

Answers:
First of all, don't think of it as intercourse...think of it as "sex."

The first time you have sex, it isn't particularly enjoyable simply because you don't know how it works. But what you are experiencing is completely NORMAL. It took me four years to overcome my fear of sex. I think it takes awhile to get in the right frame of mind and body.

First, make sure that your husband tells you to "Relax!" There's something reassuring to hear a guy say that. Second, you didn't mention whether your husband is engaging in foreplay or not...but if he isn't, it's very possible that the muscles in your vagina just aren't relaxed enough for intercourse to feel comfortable. Your body will release a natural lubricant if you are relaxed and excited. You should have at least 20 or 30 minutes of foreplay the first time.

Make sure that you are excited before you try intercourse...drink coffee with milk before you have foreplay...coffee is an aphrodesiac that will help you relax. Eat some chocolate.

About 30 minutes later, try some slow kissing...watch a romantic movie...massage also will help you to relax. You also need to relax your mind...imagine yourself in his body...feeling whatever he is feeling. You can also try dancing...some bump and grinding. Music has a way of making a woman relax.

Breathing is VERY important...even if you don't feel excited...breathe deeply and heavily because this will help your muscles relax. Sometimes acting like you are excited will actually make you excited.

Don't worry, eventually you will overcome your fears and find yourself enjoying sex. It just takes a little practice.

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it always hurt your first time..ur vagina isnt used to it.let him take it slow.. if it still hurts consult a doctor.

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