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My 5 year old son has asthma. The doctors tell me to keep him away from a smokey environement. My in-laws chain smoke. Plus there is another chain smoker in the house. Three chain smokers. When my son goes and visits they still smoke in front of him. My husband and I have asked them to go outside and smoke while my son their own grandchild is over because the smoke bothers him. They won't stop smoking while he's around.
My son's doctor had personally written a letter to them asking them not to smoke around him. I showed it to my husband and he got mad. Am I wrong in asking them to stop smoking while he's at their house? Isn't it my right, and job to protcet him? My son tells me the smoke makes him feel sick and when I tell him he's going over there he doesn't want to. It's causing problems for my husband and I he won't put his foot down. My husband said he wanted other opions about how bad smoke is for children that have asthma. Isn't it pretty clear? Thank you.

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My dad died of cancer, small cell lung cancer, that only comes from cigarette smoke. You don't have to ask me my opinion!!
His bones disolved from the cancer before he died.

I have to ask, since we are honest, why is this even a question when a child is involved? Your husband needs to stand up like a man for his family!

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Don't take him over there. If you do, you are just as wrong as they are.
I respectfully invoke my 5th amendment rights as my answer may tend to incriminate myself
Its bad don't take him if you care about him.
I'd say the situation is very clear. Tell them they can visit your son at your house from now on.
Your not wrong, they are.
just don't take him over there anymore. when they ask how come you don't take him, tell them they have to stop smoking in front of him. It is your job to protect you son.
I have had asthma for the past 20+ yrs. I can tell you from personal experience that smoke does affect my breathing.Also pets,pollen, and weather change.
YOU GO GIRL!! and don't send your son to their house no more because i know you wouldn't want your son to have a asthma attack? right so keep doing what you doing and stop sending your son to their house!
YOU'RE A GOOD AND CARING MOTHER, ON THE OTHER HAND YOU HUSBAND IS A MOMMAS BOY, TELL HIM TO PUT ON HIS BIG BOY PANTIES AND PUT HIS FOOT DOWN. IF THEY WANT TO SEE YOUR SON THEY WILL NOT SMOKE AROUND HIM. GOOD LUCK
If it's not your job to protect your child, whose is it? Stupid idiot smokers and they're dumb-defying denials.
if they won't quit smoking around him , then don't bring him there anymore. it's your job to keep him safe, and smoking with a child around is terrible, and could be deadly for a child with asthma. put your foot down and keep it down.
stop taking him round their and if your in laws want to see your son they will have to come round your home where they wont be able to smoke
You need for the sake of your son to lay down the law.

If they cannot put aside a cigarettes for as long as your son visits then they will have no contact with their grandson. Stick to it & mean it.
Hopefully that may give them some incentive to at least meet you half-way.
Don't take him over there. Maybe when they get to missing him, they will realize their priorities. He is your son. Put his best interests first.
DEAR ABBY: With the end of summer comes the time of year I dread the most -- the holiday season.
It isn't the holidays that get me down, it's the prospect of visiting my husband's family with our new baby girl. They are all lifelong smokers who think nothing of holding a baby and a lighted cigarette at the same time.

My sister-in-law's kids have allergies and asthma, but she smokes around them anyway. Parties at my in-laws' are literally a cloud of smoke. When my husband's family are guests in our smoke-free home, they smoke outside. These folks think that as long as the baby is away from the smoke, it won't affect her. They don't realize the smell lingers on them -- whether they're smoking in or outside.

With the colder weather approaching, all our visits will be indoors. Our daughter's pediatrician says no one is to smoke around her. My husband refuses to say anything to his parents about the smoke and insists we take our baby to their house. What can I do? Our daughter is only 6 months old, and exposing her to all that smoke scares me.

I should add that I get along well with my in-laws except for this one issue. Please tell me how to handle this. -- SMOKELESS BUT OUTNUMBERED IN PENNSYLVANIA

DEAR SMOKELESS: Schedule a session with your baby's pediatrician and take your husband. He needs to be told by a professional that a smoke-free environment for your infant is "doctor's orders." Once he understands the importance of a smoke-free environment for the baby's health, the two of you can restrict the family visits at his parents' house and do it with a clear conscience.


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