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Question:
My son's doctor had personally written a letter to them asking them not to smoke around him. I showed it to my husband and he got mad. Am I wrong in asking them to stop smoking while he's at their house? Isn't it my right, and job to protcet him? My son tells me the smoke makes him feel sick and when I tell him he's going over there he doesn't want to. It's causing problems for my husband and I he won't put his foot down. My husband said he wanted other opions about how bad smoke is for children that have asthma. Isn't it pretty clear? Thank you.
Answers:
I am sorry for your dilemma. My son had been sick as an infant and had to use a nebulizer for awhile.
I think you cannot ask them to not smoke in their own home. You can however, not allow him to go over there. You as his mother have a responsibility to protect your child. Your husband should be backing you in protecting his son. Even if they quit smoking when he is there, the fact that they smoked in the room BEFORE he got there is going to affect him too.
It's affecting your child's life. How can your husband not see this? I don't understand it. I hope he sees the light soon. Your son is suffering from it.
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well, If you have to just quit taking him over there. make them come to your house then YOU TELL THEM you dont want them smoking in your house!
It IS pretty clear - you are in the right here. If your doctor took the time to write a note to your in-laws, then it seems pretty serious to me. How selfish of them all. If your husband won't step up, you should. Call them on the phone and tell them they will not be seeing their grandson anymore until they can agree to stop smoking around him. Simple as that. You can do it - you're doing a great job protecting your son. your not in the wrong at all. your husband should realise this.maybe you should stop taking your son to visit them, that should make them think twice. these ppl sound very selfish, if they're not bothered about their own health but they should have some consideration for your son's. good luck, hope your son gets a little better soon, and benefits from a smoke free environment
Smoking has been shown as a direct stimulus for an asthma attack in countless studies. You are completely in the right & should refrain from allowing your in-laws to see their grandson until they agree to smoke outside. By smoking in front of him, they are risking his life.
You are absolutely right. Stick to your guns. Your first priority is to protect your child. Good luck!
Do they not love your son? It is more than reasonable to ask them to stop, not only for his health but theirs as well. Well done and kudos for you for taking the bull by the horns. Respect I think you need to show them the letter and tell them again that your child could have an asthma attack that could jeopardize his health and may possible kill him if they do not stop smoking around him. As his mother (two of my sons have asthma) you have the right and duty in my opinion. If your husband doesn't agree tell him this is too important to ignore.
If they love your child they will not smoke around him.
if they wanna see him then they can come to see him in your smoke free home, do not let him go there. i think that if they really appreciate you and your son's company they would stop smoking at the exact same second you ask them to, and with more reason if it's because of your son's good health, if they prefer their filthy, nasty, old fashioned, pathetic and bad habit of smoking, you should stop visiting your in-law family as not good as it may sound.
I wouldn't take your son over there at all it's not just smoking it's second hand smoke too. If you really care about your son stay home with him. If you husband doesn't get it, then I guess he is asking you to choose. Let see the life of your son or a few hours with your in laws. If you want to confront them again, I suggest that you do it when they are not smoking they are more likely to listen.
This is tough.
My nephew was a premie (32wks) and his grandmother smoked. They just refused to take him over to her home and would not let her smoke in there home.
Second hand smoke is bad for everyone. Many places to get info but that does not seem to be the problem. But you and your husband need to come to an understanding and work it out before you can fix it with them.
Well I'm a smoker. I smoke in my home mostly my room. I have a 10 year old and a 16 year old. If I were in your shoes, my children come first. I wouldn't let him go over there. If they disrespect you that much to not even quit while their own sick grandson is there then they don't deserve to visit with him. Those are your rules, stick by them. And as for the smoker in your home, they'd be smoking outside..guaranteed. And as I said . I'm a smoker. Now you have a smoker's point of view. Good Luck. And stand behind what you believe in.. especially if it's for your son's health.
Your first concern is your child's health. YES, second hand smoke will effect someone with asthma. You need to educate your husband on this. Have him speak with your doctor.
As for your in-laws. I would tell them, that your son cannot be in there home due to his health problems. If they would like to visit at your home, you will ask them to please smoke out-side. and until their home is smoke free you and your son will no longer be visiting. Your husband may have a problem with this. But if he loves his son, he will do what needs to be done for his welfare.
And if your in-laws want to see their grandson at their home, they will do the proper thing also. good-luck!
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