ive got depression, but my personal poblems re making me worse....?
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Depression is a chemical thing, it's not mental. Your brain has too much serotonin (sp?) and you have to get medication to control it.
Stick through it, it could take even up to 6 monthes (or 1 month) or more of VERY crazy mood swings and mental agony until you can find a correct dosage and medication.
Stick through it, it can be fixed.
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i dont know what to say luv, sorry, but we can go for a beer if you want. i live near bournemouth. chin up.
BUT DON'T TAKE THE TABLETS THEY'RE FCUKING SH!T TRUST
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try stepping it up a notch and seeing a psychiatrist
r u girl
Does your counselor work with a medical doctor to consider psychiatric medication? Talk about it with your counselor. I suggest you ask for a medication referral if you do not see a psychiatrist now. Just as an example of one possibility, which does not work for everybody but has helped me greatly go to this website for one pill idea: http://www.effexor.com
Much luck and success.
You need to deal with whatever anger you've turned inward to get over the depression. It's very difficult sometimes, because you may be angry at someone you love, but until you deal with it and forgive that person, you will be miserable, and in a sense, still under that person's control.
SNAP OUT OF IT!
Go on a holiday and take a break from everything and everone.
Moving out into your own house/flat will give you space and you can customise it to suit your mood and help keep you cheerful and give you seomehitng to do.
Go and join a club that interestes you, be it a sport club, a dance club a card club, whatever your hobbies are, this is a great way to meet new like minded people.
If staying out of work is not making you feel better and is causing money problems perhaps go back or get a change of job as working 9-5 helps pass the day and gets you interacting with more people.
look you have got to much on yourself. Stop stop stop now be4 you fall into the pit.
start focussing on other people's problems and yours will be nothing, nothing i tell you.
try to get to sit with people and listen to them so that they can open up. you will be shocked to find out that yours ant problems at all they are just anthill not mountains
good luck
Don't give up. This is just a hard part of your life everyone has one. You'll get through this. I've never suffered depression or became a lesbien but last year there abour 4 deaths in my life including my two dogs I grew up with who both died within two weeks and I got through it. Just stay posotive and NEVER consider suicide.
The best of luck to you!
don't worry you will be okay the worst possible thing you can ever do when your depressed is to sit or lie down and think about it if you feel low get up and do something you have to force it sometimes i was depressed and suicidal for three years and now im okay things will get better i know it doesn't seem like it but they will your new mantra is Independence don't let people make you feel bad don't let yourself feel bad you are strong and you are worthwhile listen to happy music and try not to think I'll never feel like that try smiling it sounds stupid but it makes you feel happier if you want you can talk to me on msn techno-prisoners@hotmail.com if I'm not on leave a message and i will get back to you you'll be okay
sorry to hear you're feeling sad. first, try seeing a different counselor if the one you're seeing isn't helping you. that alone can make a huge difference. also, consider taking some anti-depressants to help you through this rough time. i know things might seem overwhelming right now, but everything will work out. it's hard to see the positive side of things when you're sad, i know. but things do get better. :) take care.
you dont feel better since u went on the sick as now youuve got 100% more time to be depressed- i suffer too and have for years.
time to think and mope about is you worst enemy. im so sorry for all the things youve written believe me ive also been to hell and back in my life-things will get better but you need to fill up some of your time whether thats getting a new job-going back to your old one or finding a hobby-something simple like jogging can make you feel so much better-the exercise will tire u out and make you feel better about yourself.you need to tackle one thing at a time-can u get your own place? please feel free to get in touch if u want someone to just listen. xx
The first thing you need to do is make sure you are telling the people who are caring for you (doctor/therapist etc..) are aware of the depth of your depression.
Try to write a list of things that need to change in order for your life to be better. Work through that list (make it fair and manageable to yourself)
Nothing I can say will make things better straight away but take things in little steps and make sure you keep on talking.
Take care, look after yourself
Sending you lots of lovex
Maybe get rid of your girlfriend,sounds like she ant helping much .Goodluck and try to be postive
Oh sorry that's sad. U might need a counsellor. But U need to get an activity, een voluntary. 'Cos it all on you, to get urself out of it. When I was diagnosed wt MS I went thru similar circles, but I had to pull myself out, started going to the gym, making new friends and praying more than i had done b4. Now I've got a job and also doing some voluntary stuff
Hi, i was reading your question and it reminded me of a simmilar situation someone close to me has been in!
Have you tried going to a priest they can normally help, when you are feeling that low only the love of God can help. Even if you think it is silly go and try it out you will see that it really is the best thing ever!
Good luck
Hope you feel better soon!
hi, i too suffer from depression, have done since i was 14, you basically need to see the doctor, get refferred to more specialist help like a physciatrist, you said counsellings not helping, may be you are not opening up to the counsellor?. dump the gf who is not any use any way, try to get out more, make new friends. and remember your nan in a good positive way as i feel she loved you very very much. you must have some positive good things in your life? list them, read more self help book, have a good clear out of your room/flat it always helps. get your hair done. look into claiming incapacity benefit after your half pay runs out. or think about getting a part time job. trust me darling there is lots of help out there for you. please dont feel alone. good luck keep loving yourself!!! you are wonderful!!!!
First sorry to hear about your grandmother's death. If your counselor isn't working then maybe you need to seek another one who you "click" with personality wise. Get your antidepressant meds evaluated to ensure you are on the proper one and proper dosage.
Family may not agree with your lifestyle decision, but (most) will still love you no matter what. Until you get yourself back on track -- maybe having a gf is not a good time since you should be concentrating on yourself. How about just being friends with someone.
Get a medical check up to establish that there is nothing else going on with you with the fatigue.
Exercise (even just 30 min walking) is good for depression.
you need to gain confidence in yourself hun, and stop relying on others to make you happy, some soul searching is in order i think. you gf obviously isnt into things as much as you are so maybe its time to dump her.
find sum YOU time and find out what really makes you tick, then get your *** out there and see the worl, set some goals and see how your going to reach them
there is always a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow hun
good luck
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I am not suprised you are "down". That's a lot of problems to deal with on your own. I think that you need to sort things out and start to take control of your life. If you were more in control and felt that YOU were doing something about things you would feel a whole lot better. I was very shy and it is very, very difficult to be assertive but you need to do this for you.
Your are obviously grieving for your Nan at the moment and that will take time to get over. Your parents will also be grieving so try to understand that as well...Ask yourself whether or not you need to be in a relationship at the moment, because it might be better if you can be on your own for a while. Try to sort out the money problems...cut back or try to get another job. Trust me if you can dig deep to find that strength to sort this out you will have more confidence in the end. Take care.....Big Hugs.
focus on the things that make you feel good. find a new hobby or project that will keep you occupied when you feel low. Try redecorating your room in a brighter, cheerful colour, wear bright clothes, try a new hairstyle, wear pretty makeup, make new friends. Salsa dancing is EXCELLENT as you make new friends whilst learning how to dance. Go for walks and get LOTS of fresh air (do you have a dog??), head up, chest out, and make yourself noticed. You will be amazed how much it will boost your confidence when someone wants to make friends with you or compliments you on how you look!
ABOVE ALL, HAVE FUN, AND DON'T DRINK!
i'm sorry for all your troubles but look at them as a blimp in your life,now you need to pick up your game which means ,start doing some exersizes walking is a great one for depression,get rid of this so called girl-friend you dont need her .tell yourself every single morning i'm going to beat this because i'm worth more than this,,,keep repeating this while you are having you'r morning wash, get up early go for a fast walk ,pick a route and increase it daily,after two weeks you will have more energy,then get yourself back to work,you are doing yourself no good staying at home all the time this causes depression, now after a month your doing really fine back to work back to earning back to wanting a new life and you can do it you have proved it by getting this far,,,,really go for it only you can do it good luck and let me know weekly how you are doing you can and will do it.....
you know , when i first looked at your description i though, girl has a problem, but after 5 mins, yes only 5, ive scaned my brain for all informations that would be helpful for you, and you know what, it seems to be easy case, yes i know it might seem hard but it is not, the problem is you can not fix somebodys life with writing one letter on answers, so all i try is give you a little advice, or just a tought i dont know myself,
anyway if you would consider you would like to talk to me feel free to contact me on IM or by email.
so lets starts
as i dont know your age i can not aswer fully so its will be brief
your "depression" might be typical of young person, you might be not sure of all, the values you used to live by, your family, if you love them, if they care about you, you felt in love with woman and she seemed not to be interested in you anymore, your nan died, so here you got two loves gone in just one moment, this is depressing i can not deny here, but im not here to deny or accuse, just trying to help,
i dont know if you are going to school so i dont know if advice you to take more job or not, i do not know what kind of financial problems you have, maybe you just spend more money than you could, for example doing shopping to feel less sad, i dont know it, so i can not advice you nothing about money matters at this point,
the funeral is depressing thing and it might deepen your depression state, it aslo might make your mome more pissing off,
you did not tell where you work or what is your hobby, i dont know why you are shy so i can not tell you how to fix it,
right now your sadness is obvious, death of your nan and disapointment on gf, im not gonna add here previous problems,
what you need is to focus on what you want from life, what are you expectation, your future, if you don not know, dont worry, i dont know too, even though ive chosen to study psychology...
but dont go away , i know your shrink did not help you, but the problem is not everybody can help everybody, and im not saing im able to , im not saing i can do the magic as you expect it to be, im not magican, im realistic person,
and this is why i want you to know that no matter what, it is important to be yourself,
all i want is help you find in this world, tell me what you want and i will use all my knowlage to bring this to you, gosh im writting like a writter ,
anyway... if you are by this line of text it means you like what i wrote, what means that i can help you, what means that there is chance for you....
and this is why I want you to live, to smile, to be happy, and this is why i want you to tell me.... all what you want so I could tell you all what can be done...
to make you smile... from now on till the end of days....
call me selfish but there is nothing better for me than making other person smile and getting nothing in exchange....
im not even gonna tell you my real name, city i live in, nothing what could help you find me, i just want to help you, as i did few other females.
all you have to do is let me know if you want my hand ....
right now ill sing for you
Your life has been so hard
It's dried up angels that can't keep guard
I'm trying to reach your hand
But I'm on fire
I never planned to fade... away
Stay with me
Stop pretending when they say that you're nothing
Are you sad?
Are you holding yourself?
Are you locked in your room?
You shouldn't be..
I'm drowning inside your head
Help me to answer
Help understand
(song is from: our lady peace - are you sad)
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ive just realized you are 22;) am i right?
this makes things easier... when it comes to helping you
Take a deep breath, eat, sleep, walk.
Just think, your ability to bear so many stuff actually needs so much energy and determination which not everyone has.
Recognise this and grow with my respect to you.
What went down will come up again.
I could have written this question a few years ago, it reads like my life story as it was back then. I know what you're feeling and know it's frustrating not knowing how to get well again.
One councillor asked me, "If I could remove all the things from my life that made me depressed, would I be any happier?"
If your answer is YES, then you know what to do – remove it.
If your answer is NO, then you need to tackle the issue(s) head on. For example, if you're not getting any love from your gf then dump her, find someone else. You don't really love someone that upsets you so regular, you (mistakenly) think you do. Get rid, being lonely is far better than being depressed because you aren't getting the love you deserve.
As for money problems, if you can't cope then goto the Citizens Advice and ask for help, that's what they're there for. If you have to declare yourself bankrupt then so be it - fcuk what anyone else thinks if you do they mean nothing to you if they ain’t gonna support you.
Not many people get on with their parents so don't let that get you down. Just be thankful they are still around, you'll miss them when they're gone.
Join the TA, a great place to meet people and have a laugh. Keeps you fit, see the world for free (well a small part of it anyway) you get paid too and you'll soon find out that you ain’t as shy as you think.
Let all of those tears out, never try to stop yourself from crying. Just let 'em flow. When we cry, we release a certain chemical into our brain, which makes us feel better.
To increase your energy levels you need to exercise, get a dog and go for long walks with it, go swimming, get on your bike or you could join the TA! The more energy you use the more is replaced by your body to fill the gap. OK you maybe knackered but it's physical tiredness as opposed to mental tiredness...there is a difference. Once your body energy rises then your metal strength will increase aswell.
Whatever you do, don't give up...you gotta keep going girl no matter what life throws at you. Easier said than done I know but you have to try all the time. DONT GIVE UP.
It's gonna take along time to recover from depression, fact, but it can be done, another fact.
Sorry to hear the passing of your Nan aswell. I'm sure she's looking down on you now and shouting her head off at you to "KEEP GOING GIRL, DON'T LET THE FCUKERS GRIND YOU DOWN!!!"
It's upto you now to give everything a fair crack of the whip. Don't go for one bike ride and say you ain’t gonna go again because you're too tired, or goto a TA session and leave after only one showing. Stick with it - and before long you'll see some progress and then when that happens do more of the same as it's making you feel happier.
Trying to answer such a deep and serious question like this via YA isn't the easiest way to communicate my thoughts on this so I hope you get the general idea of what I'm trying to suggest.
All the best, chin up and SMILE - you'll be amazed to know you can still raise one [a smile].
I can see you have had plenty of answers, I haven't read them so I don't know what they suggest for you. I have suffered with depression most of my life and it is a hard thing to get out of. I think you should go to the doctors and get some antidepressants firstly. They will not work straight away, they take a couple of months to kick in. They wont get rid of your problems but they will help you to see them in a different light. Grief is a big factor of depression and maybe you need to see the councillor again as 3 times isn't enough to say whether or not its working. You have to work with depression and not fight against it. I has taken me many years to realise this. Your sexuality is another issue and to me its one that isn't really a problem, so what if you like girls, it isn't the end of the world and in my experience relationships with girls can be just as bad as with boys.
If you want a chat contact me. I'm here for you if you want it. Good luck babes and chin up xxx
A councellor, or some one like me to chat too, I suffered from depression but the tablets made me worse, chin up.
Take medication it is very important to do a complete course of tablets and then go back to doctors. Time off work may not have made you worse because this may have been happening anyway the illness can play tricks with you because your life may not be affecting your illness its more likely the other way round! Other ill people blame the tablets! this is typical of mental illness, Blaming the very thing that is helping you causes 'non compliance' and major problems for the whole community.
Problems are like a staircase, you either climb higher or go lower.
Believing u av problems is not a right solution to solving it. Everyone has problems but the person with the greatest problem is the one wwho believes in the problems
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Now, to help you build your self esteem issues, I suggest motivational and personal growth training. A great source for both of these is at www.avenuestosuccess.net. 24/7 programming right on your PC. Hope these help you! :)
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