I'm worried about my dad!?
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Don't worry too much- he probably just caught an upper respiratory infection a few months ago. The resulting cough from those kinds of infections can linger for months after the other symptoms have gone away. My mom used to get about one a year, and her cough would last for 3 months easy. There was never anything seriously wrong with her, and even when she went to the doc about it, there was nothing he could do about it except prescribe her a heavy-duty cough syrup. If your dad feels fine otherwise, it's probably nothing to worry about.
ring for a home visit,tell him you're worried
I don't think it matters what you do, he's being doing what he wants all along!
Let it go. If he's that darn stubborn, nothing will get him there until he drops. I have a Dad like that too.
say dad you took care of me when i was young now it is my turn to take care of you. then tell him that you are very worried and ARE going to take him whether he wants to or not. maybe you can call a traveling doctor and surprise your dad. GOOD LUCK!
I think you must be persistant and make your dad go to the doctor. He may be sicker than he thinks. I am not a doctor, I am nurse, but if he is a smoker he may have COPD. I would definitely get him to a dr, if it were my DAD.
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blokes don't go to the doctor unless they have to hhmmm
my knee is knackered and i should go, but haven't as yet.
talk to a Dr he will suggest what you should do
although it could be something minor it cxould be something very serious, i think its time for some emotional blackmail maybe the "you cant love me or you would go to the doctors" kind of thing would work.
does he smoke?? if not, he needs to go to a doc. could be tuberculosis...could be a lot of things. but get him there any way you can.!!
could be serious,like lung cancer,the sooner he is seen the better
Is he losing weight does he smoke is he bothered by mucus etc? If yes just tell him you are concerned and will phone as already suggested for home visit or phone up NHS Direct and speak to an advisor.
Good luck and try not too worry too much.
Keep persisting. Tell him that he sets a great example for his kids as well. That if you were ill would he not want you to seek medical attention?
Also make it known that you feel that he doesn't love you enough to take care of himself and if it is serious will pass on leaving you without him. Is that love when something could be done to correct it?
Keep being presistant!! And set up an appointment for him! Tell him that he is going to go...and tell him that it wont hurt him to go to the doctor if everything is OK. And go with him to make sure he goes!! Good Luck!! I know how it is b/c my grandfather has Alzheimer's and he gets like that!
I am very sorry to hear that he is so stubborn i am like that at times to i never go to the doc when i should and so is my hubby and i know i sound like a hypocrite but it really really worries me when he don't go. I worry allot because i have lost sooo many people in my life including my dad. Just tell him that you are really worried and you would feel allot better if he goes because the worry has put stress on you. Yes keep bugging him he might get real mad but at least he will know and it could be something bad so if he doesn't it may get worse. Good luck and i hope that everything goes well. You can e mail me at sassylilbiatch02@yahoo.com
you can not force anyone to seek medical attention because if you do and they refuse treatment when you get them to the office or er the nurses or doctors can not touch the patient and they are allowed to leave and if they do touch them when the patient is refusing treatment then assault charges can be pressed. So I would just tell him that you are concerned and would really wish he would get checked out so you know that he is okay and tell him that you are just worried and love him very much but if he still refuses say ok that is fine but also let him know if he changes his mind you will be more than happy to take him. Also one thing that can only be done in a critical situation like if he becomes short of breath, loses consciousness, or starts coughing blood up call an ambulance but until then you can't do much.
Ask him to do it..just for you.
He probably thinks he might as well go with a cough as not. Does he smoke at all?
just tell him how worried you are offer to go along with him
its best he gets it checked out
Unfortunately, its hard to make someone else take care of themselves. A persistent cough is nothing to mess around with, but what are you gonna do? You can try letting him know what his symptoms represent (look up on internet) and how it concerns you. Otherwise, he's apparently an adult and can do what he wants..
He.s frightened that's why he wont go but if its anything serious its easier to sort it out now
So I'm afraid you will have to keep nagging him
Get other members of the family to also nag him
Hope he goes soon
Ring NHSDirect, explain the problem to them. No doubt they'll advise you to take him to the doctors, which may take you back to square one but you never know they may give you a snippet of information that'll convince your dad.
Hope it all works for you.
Some men can be so stubborn when it comes to going to the doctor, but a cough for such a long time that could be a lot of things that can be causing that cough. Some of those things that could be causing the cough can be pretty dangerous or could develop a dangerous chronic illness. You should convince him to get checked out by a doctor at all cost just to be in the safe side. Tell your Dad that your going to bug him until he goes to the doctor or tell him how upset it makes you feel because he dosent want to see the doctor. Find ways to Try to make him feel sympathetic towards you and your feelings and maybe he might be moved and he'll listen to you. Good luck, I know this kind of stubborn men my dad is also the same Iknow what your going through.
You could contact your dads doctors and tell them about it and that you are worried. They won't be able to discuss anything on file about your dad due to patient/doctor confidential rules but they may ask your dad to attend for a routine medical. They don't have to discuss that you contacted them first. I would persist with this. I know parents can be stubborn but if you feel that something is wrong then keep biting away at it. It's best to find out whats wrong sooner than later.
he has a mind of his own and there is very little you can do; unfortunately a lot of men don't like to do anything when they seem ill because they think if they ignore the problem it will go away. I would leave it for a couple of weeks and then try again.
Explain to him that it is unfair not only to himself, but to the rest of the family if you should lose him prematurely because he did not care enough to look after his health. Ask him to do it for you if not for anyone else. The cause could be something as simple as an allergy to something very critical, but he should not ignore it. Make the appointment for him.
Tell him how worried you are and how badly it is affecting you aswell as him. You could arrange for a doctor to come to your house to check on him, then he will have to be seen by a doctor.
maybe he has a kind of cancer...but that would come from smoking...so nvm...maybe hes been alergic to something?
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