Do you think his job will help him in his own personal life?
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Cold-calling is what hell is all about. No one likes them, even the callers. They are intrusive and obnoxious. Impersonal and banal.
Cold-callers are the bottom-feeders of any sales industry. No one respects them, even if they get good at it.
It's like being good at farting.
But..sales are built on them-for every hundred calls, you get one sale-it's all you need. Just make those 100 calls as fast as you can every day.
They do teach you to have a thick skin for rejection, and to treat people like numbers. Good for a playah- wanna-be, I guess.
I think he should keep the job, and use it to encourage him to go to COLLEGE. If he doesn't get an education sales, is the best job he'll ever have. Most sales jobs include some cold- canvassing to create new leads. Successful people figure out how to do it, quick. And to get over being anathema to the rest of the world.
My better suggestion is to take a speaking/speech/drama class or club or get in theater. They will TEACH how to talk to people, to fake confidence, to put on a "show" not just throw you in the tank, to sink or swim.
Some (very lovely) women love shy guys who do manage enough gumption to ask you out.
Even handsome, powerful, confident men get rejected. It bothers them, too.
They just dust themselves off and keep going. Your friend should do the same.
Confidence is an act. Everyone has doubts, and think their feet look funny. Everyone has been rejected in someway some time. The big shots take it the hardest, because they have worked so hard to create the illusion of perfection.(The bigger they are, the harder they fall.)
Everyone has a gift to share that we will all be better off for the sharing.
To build confidence, dream your dreams, and figure out how to make them happen-a tiny little step at a time, bit by bit.
Forgive yourself and others for failing and KEEP going.
Show compassion to all, little and big shots alike, because all of us have vulnerable places we like to try to hide.
Get out there and live your life-IN CAPITAL LETTERS- If you don't live your life-who will?
Don't waste another minute worrying about girls-attracting them or being rejected. Just live your best life, go do things, learn things, travel, take pictures, get a job you love.
Women will notice.
And even if they don't, you will have lived the life you could live before that first shovel-full of dirt hits you in the face.
Good luck.
Eventually, he will get sick of being single and come out of his shell.
Probably not. A job is not a good place to try to change your personality because the company is paying you to accomplish a task, not to see if you can change your personality to accomplish the task. Also, his income is going to be based on doing well. If his natural shyness keeps him from making money then he is going to be more shy.
There is a difference between a shortcoming and a limitation. It sounds like your friend has the latter.
it might push him farther back into his cave, or come out swinging becouse he is fed up with it.
when he is ready to talk to people he will. i use to be afreid,i was very shy. but then i started getting hire self esteem, my step dad allways praised me and told me what a great job i was doing. i went in to the tae kwon do and a few yrs later enlisted in the Army.
there is no sence in makeing ur freind do something he dosnot like, ur his freind right?
I agree 100% with what you told him.He really does need to stick with it and come out of his shell.Keep Helping him and keep giving him some confidence in his new job and meeting new women.
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