Feeling LOST, Confused and Violent...help!?
Question:
I just feel so down and unaware of who I am. This may sound strange, but I feel as if i'm a ghost (in the sense that I just roam around not aware of what I'm doing- no feeling what so ever).
I feel so angry and it worries me as i'm acting like how my violent brother and father act. Plus I scream or raise my voice when I get annoyed or when I don't like something that some one says - this happens all the time.
I Don't want to act like this. I mean i've changed... I'm not sweet and loving anymore! I just want to break that hard, vicious shell inside so I can sort myself out and concentrate on my work.
Help! how do I break it?? (I've seen the doctor and I don't want to take anti-depressant tablets and I'm currently going councelling)
Answers:
Hey
Its funny but I know for sure you are not alone with those feelings, plenty of people get in a rut and start to act differently but its only a few that are lucky enough to recognise that the person they have become is not the person they were or want to be.. Thats the first major step.. Congratulations..
If you want advice, stick to the counselling and try and get out more , perhaps spend some time going to the park or taking the dog for a walk. I have always found my personal space, surroundings and fresh air really helpful when i have felt the way that you described. Trust me things will fall back in place just give them a little time and patience. Work at it and you'll soon find that this year at school will also feel easier..
Chin up and keep smiling, even if you dont feel like it...
Sometimes you have to be mean to be kind. With this in mind. snap out of it. Your only kidding yourself - Your GCSEs are very important and you dont want to cry for the rest of your life for some exams you knew you could have passed.
Sort yourself out otherwise you ll be working in McDonalds for the rest of your life - yes id like a Happy meal
GOOD LUCK
there's a place called UNITY. not the unitarian church. Meditation might help a little.
Honestly, you sound like a pretty average teenager to me. Your body is changing quite rapidly and these changes cause all kinds of emotional problems. Go ahead with the counselling and be honest when you're there because through counselling you are helping yourself.
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It sounds like you have a chemical imbalance. You are acting like a totally different person from whom you were before (from what I can tell from your question). Signs of a chemical imbalance include mood-swings, anxiety, anger, and more. Councelling can help some, but it won't get rid of the problem. Anti-depressents aren't just for depression: they also treat chemical imbalances and anxiety disorders. Talk to your doctor more, and follow his/her advice if what you are currently doing is not working.
you sound like a normal 15yr old if the councelling is helping then keep it up also it may sound strange but try going into the middle of nowhere like a field and just scream at the top of your voice do it till you feel better you'll feel so much calmer, as for being confused why don't you try writing a list of what YOU want to achieve in your next coming months, and just try to stick to it, but if you don't well that ok you at least know you are trying and don't forget to rest and be with your mates 2, as well as working on your school work ;-) good luck
It sounds to me like you are under quite a bit of stress. From how you describe your family it seems like they are not very supportive which no doubt adds to your stress.
It's great that you are going to a counsellor, if it works for you that's good. I would advise you to put things into perspective, your GCSEs are important but they are not the be all and end all, even if the worst happened and you failed (which I'm sure won't happen) you can always resit at college. What's more important is your health. Speak to a friend or teacher about your problems, and write them down in a diary.
I went through similar emotional issues when I sat my GCSEs and my father was dying at the time. Be strong and eventually that lost feeling (which accompanies depression) will end. I believe that in my case it arose due to a feeling that I was not in control of my own life, when that issue was resolved and I took my control and admitted my feelings to those affecting me, the depression lifted. It will for you too, please be stong and have hope, it will get better.
I think you have already taken an important step by approaching your GP and getting councilling. If your brother and father are violent then this is bound to have an affect on you. If they are violent towards you - then this is not normal or acceptable behaviour to accept from them and you need to make your councillor aware that you are suffering abuse.
First of all we are all people. You are someone and though at times you feel like a ghost - you aren't you are a real person with feelings and emotions like everyone else. So even though you may FEEL like a ghost - you don't have to act like one. As has already been posted on this site there are many groups and foundations to help you. Childline can help too.
It is natural to feel anger - espeacilly when we feel fear about something. It seems that you are very afraid of failing your exams. But trust me you won't if you work. So instead of getting angry about it - do something about it and study. However if things are really hard at home, you need to sort those things out first - otherwise it will inhibit you to do anything else.
I think you are going to be okay - keep with the counciling and if you have genuine fears and anxieties tell them about it. I also agree that you should NOT be taking any prescribed drugs at your age - espeacilly anti-depresants which should only be used in extreme circumstances (ie people with clinical depression). Anti-depressants seem to be given out as some complete cure for anything without considering the ideas of addiction and side affects as well as not tackling the often psychological root courses.
I have suffered a severe mental illness for two years in the past and spent a lot of that time in a mental health facility - but I am luckily cured and happy now. If you want to talk more - fell free to e-mail me.
You sound like me at your age, not a fun time. I was so depressed and took it out on my family. I'd get angry and scream at them about the dumbest things. Everything got on my nerves. I always thought I was going to fail at school though I was an honour student. It was horrible.
A lot of what you could be feeling is the hormonal change your body is going through at this time. Another explanation is that your brain is going through changes at you age, chemical changes and sometimes this distorts you perception of things and the way you react to them. It may pass in time.
In the meantime I would go back to my doctor. Many people need medication to get through a bout of depression. It in no way means you would be on drugs for the rest of your life. Medication and counselling have helped me as well as others that I've known. Depression is not a weakness of character, it is a scientifically proven ailment. The chemical in our brain sometimes go a little out of wack and the meds bring them back to where they should be. Once that is achieved the meds are discontinued and the brain has been reset. It goes back to functioning normally.
If you are totally opposed to drugs you might try some St. John's Wort. It is a herb that has been used for years to treat depression. It is much more widely used in Europe than in North America. Drs there recommend it so they must have had positive results. Go to a good health food shop, they are sure to help you there.
I'm glad your going to counselling, living in a home with violent people can not be helping your overall situation either.
I wish you the best, realizing you have a problem and seeking help is such a brave step for someone so young. I admire your courage.
You're not alone. Many people feel this way, especially in their teen years, when you're discovering who you are and why you are here on this earth. You may have good reason to have the specific feelings you are having. I don't know your exact situation but I know Who can help with any problem.
It sounds like you need the Prince of Peace - Jesus Christ. He gives peace and rest to all who come to Him in faith. Jesus said in Matt 11:28-30 "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light."
There is no one else who loves you more than Jesus. He was punished for our sins so that we may have peace. This was foretold in Isaiah 53:5 - "The punishment that brought us peace was upon Him, and by His wounds we are healed.
If you want to know more about God I recommend the following link:
http://www.harvest.org/knowgod/...
Also, keep communicating your feelings, like what you are doing here. Or better still, maybe with someone you know and trust that you can talk to in person. It always helps to have someone to talk to about these things.
If you're under a doctors care and he recommends you take medication, you might want to get a second opinion to help you with this. Anti-depressants can be helpful for adults who have been depressed for a period of time, but there is some concern/controversy about prescribing them for teens.
I hope you find this info helpful. Hang in there - sometimes things are darkest before the dawn!
know the feeling. 14 and going / went through the same thing... it'll pass... fingers crossed. you ever get lonely just email me or add me on msn (see my profile)... i broke it by forcing myself to smile =D and keep my trap shut... after a week you should be less violent, etc but you'll still feel down. find something to do and think about your future. find a dream you want to live or start a hobby or something. what helped me was the thought of msn - i got addicted...still am lol.
just take some time out and me time and it should help. basically you have to change or you will hate yourself more. so change one bit at a time.
start one day not raising your voice. do that for a few days and then when you think you can handle it...the next day do something extra...like do not retaliate when your little brat of a sister starts it and is soooo gobby.
anyway its a phase and if you want it enough and work hard enough then it should pass.
as for GCSEs...happens to everyone. A levels are worse. alot worse.
good luck and keep on smiling =D
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