26 year old man wetting the bed. Girlfriend?
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Tell Her !!
My friend has that problem. He really was embarrassed to tell me but he uses a Dipper. They have them for elderly people, and you should be able to fit into one :)
Why would you be embarrassed about something that you cannot control? Obviously, you would do something about it if you could, but you can't. Just tell her, and if she isn't mature enough to handle your situation, then she isn't good enough for you.
I can understand your worry, but stress can make the issue worse.
If you and your partner have an honest and caring relationship, I am sure she will be understanding about your condition. It's not as if you can help it, it's medical.
A good specialist or uralogist may be able to help you. I'm sure that a up to date doctor would know about treatments and medicine for this.
Go tell her and you won't be alone.
I feel for you, good luck :)
Bed-wetting is a dysfunction of the reflex system controlling the bladder. See your doctor ASAP.
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There are alternatives for an adult male other than a diaper. You might want to consider a condom catheter. If I were you, I would see a good doctor. One that I trust enough to talk to openly. If sleep apnea is the culprit, a night or two in a sleep clinic and a c-pap machine might fix the problem. If there's any other medically related cause, see what options are offered. If all else fails, and you think the condom cath is the route to go, then get a prescription from the doctor and let your health insurance pay for it.
From a woman's point of view, I would rather be told the truth and go from there. If you sleep in the bottom of the pj's and she uses the top, then no one has to know about the cath but you and her. Good luck.
Go see a good doctor. Please.
There are many potential causes of this problem, including sleep apnea. It depends on a lot of factors. If you haven't seen a doctor for the bedwetting, do it. There could be additional factors causing it, not sleep apnea (but that can, apparently cause it).
You have to tell your girlfriend sometime. Besides, what's the worst that's going to happen? If she can't deal with it, she's obviously not for you, and the sooner you know that, the better off you are. Sadly, there are people who are ill equipped to handle a problem like this in a mature fashion, so you need to establish that up front by putting her to the test. What if she's really understanding? Chances are, if she's a reasonably logical adult, she will be.
I have similar problems which I manage the same way. Mine are from a different physical cause but regardless of that it still occurs. I can relate to your embarrassment, but I don't let it ruin my life either. Don't let it ruin yours. I think this problem is more common than statistics indicate. You should see how many people have asked similar questions just on YouQA.com .
Tell her. If she's worth your time, she'll stay.
If somebody I was dating told me they needed diapers in bed, I'd simply thank them for making sure they're prepared!
You shouldn't feel humiliated. Hey, my eyes don't work right, so I wear contacts. Your bladder isn't cooperating, so you wear a diaper to bed. It's not a big deal.
I'm another one of the many young adults out there with the same problem... I wet every night until I was about 12 growing up, then was mostly dry for a number of years (though I always had occasional accidents) but had it come back again when I was in college and grad school in my early 20s. I'm also engaged to be married, and my fiancee is very cool about my problem -- she understands that it's a medical condition I can't really help, and is very supportive about it -- and there are a LOT of women out there who will be like that also; if your current g/f turns out not to be so understanding, at least know that there are a lot of others out there who will be.
I actually told my fiancee about the problem before we had started dating -- for me it was just something I had to do to know that she would be OK about it before we got any further. We had been friends for 3 months and honestly this was the biggest thing that held me up from moving forward toward dating -- and I'm not even talking about sleeping with her, but just with the possibility of us getting more serious and possibly married one day, I had to know that she would be understanding about it. What I did was just somehow bring up in conversation about how I used to wet the bed as a kid, to see how she reacted to that (as it turned out, her sister had wet the bed until she was 12 also!) -- and when she seemed sympathetic about that, the next step ("actually, it still happens at times...") was not quite as hard as it would have been before. It was still hard, of course, but she was totally cool with it the whole time and we've had a great relationship ever since!
I would say get it out in the open as soon as possible... even though you're already dating, the longer you're together and the more serious you get, the harder it will be in the end if she ultimately can't deal with the fact that you have this particular medical problem (unfortunately there are some people who can't, even though that's all it is). Better to find out sooner so you can move on, one way or the other -- it will never be easy, but just bite the bullet and do it! Once you do find that one woman who understands and accepts you for who you are regardless of this problem, it will be a HUGE weight off your shoulders!
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