My dad just found out he has a brain tumor. HELP PLEASE?
Question:
Can somebody just tell me whats going to happen? Is life ever going to be normal for us again? My dad is turning 45 next week. I know a 3 inch tumor is really big, but is it really fatal? You always see people on TV that have cancer but you never think it will happen to your family. BTW, we don't know if it is cancerous or not yet, since he is still being tested.
Answers:
You sound like a really nice girl. I LOVE that your question is filled with the words "we" and "us". You must be an awesome daughter.
Your dad and mom are probably in shock just like you. I'm 52 years old and if this happen to me, I know I'd be in shock. Being an adult gives us some wisdom, but we still feel and can still get rattled.
Based on your question, I'd say that you don't know anything that is really useful at this time. (It's not your fault. If their doing MRIs, it means they don't know either.) So, don't get anymore upset than you are already. Don't make yourself feel worse by assuming the worst.
For right now, here are some suggestions.
1) It sounds like you are starving for facts, that you hate uncertainty. So, ask you mom and dad if you can participate in the briefings from the doctor(s). You might here things you don't like, but at least you'll know.
2) Whenever you feel like it, tell your dad that you love him, and that you are really glad that he's your dad, and that you're proud of him. (Your mom should tell him similar things.)
3) Offer to help out as much as possible with the babies or with housework. (It sounds like you love the babies a lot.) Don't wait to be asked, just do the things that you can see are needed and that you know how to do. This will give your mom and dad some time to be together.
4) If you believe in prayer, now is the time. If you do pray, you already know what you want to say to God.
5) You sound like a really good kid, but be as well-behaved as possible for as long as you can. You don't want to create any additional worries. It will be a wonderful act of love if you can do this.
6) Your needs are important, too. Ask your parents to include you in their discussions when they can. Don't be afraid to ask for what you need.
Good luck to you and your family.
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I don't think anyone here can answer these questions for you. Sorry.
Try to stay calm, its an awful time to be in but sometimes these things can be completely treated. Its possible he may not be exactly the same as he is now, but no matter how it goes he needs your love and support, and if you can be strong and cheerful for him thats the most help you can give. No one on here can really help you with that. You need to talk to his doctor, and find a support group to find the answers to your questions. Best of luck.
very sorry to hear that. Hope all goes well for ya.
I can't answer your questions, but my best advice is to PRAY, PRAY and PRAY for him. I has a similiar situation with my Grandma and she survived through lots of medicine and prayer.
Don't think the worst too soon. I was diagnosed with a tumor in my lung. The presurgical testing placed it at 98% likely to be cancer. I went three weeks thinking I had cancer and would lose my lung and possibly die within a year.
One surgery later and four weeks recovery, I had a fungal growth that had become necrotic. I lost a small part of my lung and am fully recovered.
Be patient, but don't fear the worst; believe in the best outcome.
Thank God, I had a brain tumor and it was shown on the MRI. I was taken to the National Hospital in London. Mine wasn't cancer, but I hope God willing they would have the best experts dealing with it. Good luck. Just know it's not hopeless. there are a lot of things that you need to know about the tumor before you can assume anything. It may or may not be cancerous. Where exactly it is located in his brain will make a difference. And not only these things, but there are so many other variables making this a hard question to answer here. You really need to talk to your father and his doctor. I know it's not easy but try to think of the best. People survive these things very often!!
hi hon..i am a nurse and am sorry to hear about your dad. I cannot say that life will be the same.plp recover differently. just pray for him.that is really all u can do at this point. U are in my prayers.
Hi.
My Dad died of a brain tumor several months ago. The frustrating thing was, he didn't want to get treatment for it. He had a very large, softball-sized growth in his brain and he pretty much just gave up and let it take him. But I know now at least he's not suffering anymore and he's moved on into the next life and is happy.
Your Dad needs to get as much done for the cancer as possible. Surgery, if needed, chemo therapy and medicine.
It sounds right now as though the cancer is rather small, so there's probably a good chance he can be helped.
Once is grows and starts to spread to other tissue or parts of the body, it's usually too late.
Whatever happens, I wish you the best of luck and I'll pray for you. I've seen it first-hand and cancer is a terrible way to die.
Good luck
You must be scared to death and no one could blame you for it. The best thing to do is pray for your dad AND his doctors. Wait for the entire report to find out what kind of tumor he has and what they can do to treat it. It depends on what it is as to whether or not there is treatment for it. I have a cousin who has a daughter who has a brain tumor. They have to operate on it every three years or so to reduce it's size, but she lives a fairly normal life most of the time.
I want you to know that even though I don't know you or your family, I will pray for you as soon as I finish writing this. Again, be strong and wait for the results. Your dad and mom are going to need a lot of help from you right now. Be as grown up as you can be and help as much as you can even if it means giving up a lot of your free time. God Bless You.
Pray and claim to GOD for him nothing is impossible. All i can do is tell you to pray. I know what you are going through because in January i was diagnose with breast cancer, and i have 2 small sons. But, take my advice and start talking to God. He's still working miracles. I know been there before. I thought it was the end of my life also, but God has better for me. Be strong and encourage your daddy with good words. Its not the end of life. Now days there are so much new technology, the doctors will do what they can.
The fastest and safest way to overcome this problem is for him to GO TOTALLY ORGANIC IN EVERYTHING HE EATS.
1. He needs to have fresh vegetable juice made for him in a juicer daily.
2. He needs to completely avoid any meat that is not organic, as these contain antibiotics and hormones in them which helped cause the tumor in the first place. Pork, ham, and pork sausage need to go bye-bye for good in his diet, as these are harmful in a number of ways.
3. He should only eat meat sparingly and then only organic meat.
4. He should start taking a green powder supplement daily, like Perfect Food or VerdiSyn. These contain a plethora of essential B-Vitamins and related, a deficiency of which caused the tumor in the first place. These he needs NOW in abundance.
5. He needs to avoid all candy, cake, cookies, and other pastries.
6. He needs to avoid all softdrinks and any carbonated water as well.
7. He needs to drink only filtered or spring water when he is thirsty.
8. He needs to avoid alcohol and smoking completely.
9. He needs to avoid chemotherapy and radiation therapy, as these are only short-term solutions which ultimately weaken the body.
That's a good start.
Lorraine Day, M.D., had cancer on her chest; a life threatening tumor the size of a softball. She overcame it through organic means. I saw some of her video. She knows what she is talking about and has excellent academic and professional credentials.
Another thing you want to do is get yourself a good nutritional doctor - an N.D. I know of one in Maryland called Susan Johnson that sends out information and products internationally. She is a wealth of information. E-mail me for more details. Her website is listed at the bottom.
I am so sorry about your dad will be praying for u all I do know that all brian tumors are not fatal. my best friends fiance has brain cancer and its actually to the amazement of the doctors growing backwards hes in full remission and was told in Dec. he would be dead in 2 weeks.
plz keep us informed how your dad is doing (((((((((HUGGZ to u all)))))))))))
Dear 14 year old girl my name is crystal iam 23 years old my dad is in the hostpel and just had half of his brain tumur removed
this is his seconed serugry ..he had one back 1998
I cant tell you if he will be ok becase iam not a doctor but i can tell you from my experince from now untill his serugry please help HIM have a sterss free time i know from my situation keep him claim and just be there for him just belive in him
there was alot of complctions he still not completely out of the woods yet but i have faith and made out of the frist serugry ok and things have advinced since 1998 so i have alot of hope .spend time with him talk to him ask him how he feels about if you to talk about it there a good change you will feel better about and if they tell you it might a couple of months brfore his sergury dont get scared like i did the doctors know what there diong have faith in his doctor to ask him anything they will answer your qestions i am giong to see my dad tomorrow we
will pray for you theres anything you want to ask me my email is spring_river@sbcglobel.net
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