Serious question for recovering alcoholics and addicts only!!! I have know a girl for about?


Question:
three years who has been in and out of AA for 21 years... she claims she had five years sobriety early on, but has never been able to do it again...she has drank three times since I knew her, and she has been on pills for over two years since I knew her but I did not know...she lied and said she was not...In january she got caught at her drinking and admitted she had been drinking for two months...it was also discovered she had been taking xanax, hydrocodene, and oxycodone...she claimed she quit these things in Jan again when she went to a two month outpatient rehab...but it was discovered that she only quit for a couple of months...she got caught again by us using these pills again a couple of nights ago...she is now in a rehab ...I also need to point out that all the time I knew here she was going to AA, but most of the time she was using pills...What should I do at this point to help...I feel most any help I give her will be enabling...also both her parents died within ten months

Answers:
Unfortunately, the only the thing you can do is be supportive. I was in a similar relationship with a man - he was addicted to alcohol, gambling and crack (which I didn't know about for a long time). I used to tear my hair out trying to find ways to help him, only to learn a hard lesson: they can only help themselves. You can't MAKE someone get help. Don't take it personally, it's not about you. I came to think of his addictions as 'the other woman': one with who I could not possibly compete. He finally got help several years after I left him. I guess my advice to you would be to be as supportive as you can, pray for her, but try not to stress too much if she falls back off of the wagon. It's NOT about you.

I wish you the best of luck - you are a wonderful person for caring so much and wanting to help. You and your friend will be in my thoughts and prayers.

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Rehab is a hotbed for scoring all kinds of substances, so that is just putting her back in the mix.
She may be addicted because of bereavement, but it's a choice she's making.
You can't help anyone who doesn't want help.
i hope she finds understanding why shes hurting herself but sometimes you have to hit buttom before you react if she asks for help be there
no your stupid, how many times do you have to post this is it even a question. or where you choking on a...............
deja vu biatch

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