If you found out your partner/spouse was HIV positive and you are not, what would you do?

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That would be sooo awful, I don't even want to contemplate it, everyone that has their health should be very grateful.

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Divorce or annulment

practise safe sex with them

well, first try not to catch it then care for that person more

be very supportive and love them as much as i did before if not more

Keep loving them but stop kissing or having sex with them.
lf they really loved you,they wouldn't even expect it.
Having read your further details,it's clear the man HAS been unfaithful but is denying it for fear of you leaving him,now that he has this incurable illness.
The risk to the children,(he'll hug and kiss them,they'll eat /drink for same cup,sit on the toilet JUST after he urinated and left some pee on the toilet seat) are enormous.
l say leave.
But keep helping and don't abandon him now that he's vulnerable.

leave and take the kids

Depends on whether you were married, how the person became HIV positive, whether they hid from you that they knew they were HIV positive, whether you love them or not and whether the person has a good track record of acting responsibly. If the person got HIV from a blood transfusion then things would be very different than if they got it from visiting prostitutes or hanging out in public rest rooms. You present a complex question but don't give enough info to give much more than a knee jerk answer.

To tell you the truth some people would leave them, This decision is really up to you.

um..divorce him, but still be there for him.

well first id get tested too.there is little chance i dont have it either.

DO YOU KNOW ALL OF HIS PAST? DID HE KNOW ALL ALONG? HE HAS GOT IT FROM SOMEWERE! IS HE GAY? I WOULD DIVORCE

They are not being totally truthful. A person doesn't contract HIV or AIDS just from shaking hands. A completely honest course of communication NEEDS to be established. At some point (and you may never know when it was) a behavior was practiced that was not safe. It only takes 1 time. The safety of the uninfected spouse and of the children should come first and foremost. If this is not possible for the infected to respect and follow through, then decide if your life and the lives of your children are worth giving up to keep your spouse. The infected person is going to have a long hard road ahead of them and will need all the support they can get. Try to be as supportive as you can but DON'T BE STUPID!

i would not stay with him .. i would leave .. bc he is lying he had to catch it somewhere and he sure dident catch it off his spouse..

no sex

if the guy had not had a blood transfusion (blood is screened for HIV and other disease anyway)and did not do drugs he must have been unfaithful. if it was certain he did not have this disease when the couple got together i would say she had a very strong case for divorce!

leave quickly

If I loved him before I knew I would still love him after he was diagnosed. He needs to use a condom. Everyone needs to learn how to wash their hands properly (Ayeliffe method) and do it frequently. Soap kills the HIV virus. You are at risk from saliva but you need to make your own decisions.
He must be in shock too. You probably both need professional councelling.

Dear Friend,

What is more important is not that how he got the infection, but how well he can manage himself after the infection. An infection can happen to your child or grand parents who had to face a surgery or met with an accident, there is no point waisting time building tension on the root of infection.

One thing I want to remind you is that you always can go for a confirmation test too.

An HIV positive person can lead a healthy sexual life if he could use condom carefully. I personally know people without infection successfully lead life with their infected partner.

After some one tested positive it is not the relative who have to take care but the person living with the virus for avoiding unnecessary deceases.

Neglecting, Avoiding and Separating the partner is some times cruel and it is primarily due to the stigma you have about the decease and not of the person. If he was a heart patient or cancer patient what would have been your aptitude towards him?

The person with the virus can be lead a healthy life with out any medication till his CD4 count come down below 200. This period can be prolonged with good food and hygienic environment. After that one can go for Anti Retro Viral Therapy which will further help him to lead a healthy fruitful life.

Happiness is the key to prolong the immunity. Share it. You will be highly benefited by it.

Jacob

Well, first of all, from the scenario you are giving it means that he has cheated on his wife and is now lying to her. If someone does not get HIV from a transfusion or needles then it would have to be from intercourse.unless there is some minute chance that he had an open sore and someone with HIV bled into his open sore or it got in his eyes or something. It is much, much more likely that he is lying about having cheated. If he cheated.leave. No woman deserves to be cheated on and then have to take care of that person for the rest of their life.
If this was that one in million chance that the guy got infected through blood in an open cut or in the eye, she shouldn't leave him now. Would you leave someone if they had cancer? No you give them all your love and help them cope. I've done a lot of work with men with HIV/AIDS and they are still living really well after being diagnosed for many, many years. One gentleman got HIV from a blood transfusion and wife is still with him today and they are one of the biggest reasons why donated blood is ALL screened now.
Stick with the person if you love them. They are still the same they just need you more now then ever.

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