new girlfriend has herpes, says I probably won't get it...true?


Question:
I'm seeing a girl, and I like her. She has told me she has herpes. She says that if we are safe, I will probably not get it, but there is a chance. I'm wondering if it's worth the risk to be with her. Will I get it? is it really possible that I won't? I like her and all...but...

Answers:
That's not necessarily true.

I was with my ex for almost 4 years and he never got the virus from me, but my current fiance (boyfriend at the time) got it from me 2 months after we starting sleeping together! And, I hadn't had an outbreak in almost 2 years! We thought we were careful, but obviously you can never be too careful. There are couples that have been together for 10 or more years, one has the virus, the other doesn't.

You are ALWAYS going to be susceptible to getting the virus from her. Condom, or no condom, outbreak or no outbreak, you can STILL get it from her.

At least genital herpes doesn't cause any health problems like other STDs can. It's not life threatening, it can't kill you like HIV/AIDS or untreated syphilis. It won't cause sterility like untreated syphilis, gonorrhea, or chlamydia. And, it doesn't cause cancer, like HPV can do. Don't get me wrong, the sores are painful, but they heal.

If you love her and see yourself being with her then be with her. But, if you absolutely can not see yourself having genital herpes then don't be with her. My fiance still chose to be with me when I told him I had the virus. He loved me and was willing to take the risk of catching it from me.
If you really like/love her .. Then it wont matter. That's what I think.


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