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Just let him be - Its quite normal for things to get chaotic and confused at this time. Especially pre the death of his mother while he is trying to process his emotions and the emotions of everyone near and dear to him. Once she passes some of the stress will be lifted and he will then need time to grieve. He will return to his old self when he's been able to move on. I think for me ,when my father died, it was when I was able to appreciate again those things I admired most about my father. Like his humour and calm strength and being able to see those things again in myself (fathers legacy). He will return to his old self, it will just take time and your love and support.
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you should seek some counseling for the family to help work out the issues of dying, check into hospice in your local area. They will help with all arrangements and even provide counseling one year pass the patients death. i hope this works out usually in time it does.
Lets your husband have his grieving moment it is so hard to see someone like your mother die,he will not change and he will love your mother just the same maybe more,but now you need to stay by him and give him the best love you can give,he need you at this time ,you never know when you may need him or something may happen to someone you love so please don't judge him to much it is his mother the woman that raise him and took care of him,He will really Respect you if you just be with him and be the wife you promise to be Firstly, I don't think your husbands feelings towards your mother will change. However, of course he'll change for a while.. but, eventually, he'll move on.
I think that's just ur apprehension. Definitely, the sight of one's mom suffering from cancer will impact behaviour. It's very natural. But that doesn't mean he will change his attitude towards u or ur mom. As is evident from his behaviour, he seems to be very attached. The grief of losing her will trouble him for quite sometime. Be patient. Try to speak something comforting, if u can. Show some motherly love to him whenever he is too moody or fussy. (Gents always see their mothers as the perfect lady and so if u could be a similar person.). This is a testing time and the child within him needs ur motherly warmth.
Sorry o hear your husbands mother is that shape about all you can do is be there for him no one ever knows when something will happen it will be hard for him for a long time just be supportive ,if he is that type of person he might a little but i think it will pass in time, shes not his mother so i reay wouldn't think so.
My father passed away from colon cancer he was in pain for along time and that disease runs deep in my family. Of course he is changing its part of lifes journey, dont expect him to be bubbly and fun at a moment like this. Thats not right. If he loves your family now that part of him houldnt change, he will probably keep the things he has a little closer. If he is moody right now just continue to be there for him which Im sure you already are. Its not you thats annoying him it is the whole situation. During this whole time taking care of your family, dont neglect yourself either! You must care about him very much if you have to resort to eliciting answers from complete strangers over the Internet for such a sensitive and personal subject.
My answer is this: Sit down next to him, take his hand, look him in the eyes and tell him how much you love him and how much he means to you. Then explain to him every concern that you have about this topic and let him know that you'll be there for him, no matter what.
As for the possible resentment he might feel toward your mother if and when his passes away, you can't control that. You can however, let him know that you're concerned that it might happen and that you'd rather it didn't because of how much you love the two of them and how awful a situation that would put you in.
Above all, be honest. Let him know that you understand that he's hurt, that you'll be there to support him through this and that you'll love him no matter what.
For Better or For Worse, right?
My husband's mother died of cancer about 2 and a half years ago. I know exactly what you're going through. There were time where I felt like he appreciated my support, and times where I felt like there wasn't anything that I could do to help him. I know that it's not much help, but it's just going to take time. As strange as it might sound, when she's gone it will be sad, but it will also be relief, if she's as sick as it sounds. It's so hard to see someone that you care about suffering.
Once everything settles down, he will be the fun person that you married again - it will just take time. If he seems like he's mad at you or unhappy with you, don't worry - he's not. He's just grieving. Just make sure to let him know that you're there for him, and he will appreciate you.
I hope the best for you and your family.
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