How do i comfort my boyfriend? his father is dying of stomach cancer.?

Question:

We are both seventeen, and we have been dating seriously for 8 months. We have had our ups and downs but we have over come everything. But just last week he told me his father is dying and only has 2 years left to live. I have only met his father a few times because he is embarassed of his fathers drinking problem. But thats beside the point. I'm the only one he as talked to and i want to help to the fullest. His father is, to say the least, not totally able to keep up with the cost for the naturopath treatment. Do you think it would be a good idea to help out in the financial area (raise money)? or would that be crossing the line? I love him very much, and i want to do everything in my power to get him though this.
Thank you for your help....

Answers:
You are a very worthwhile person and I hope God blesses you. What can you do? Avoid tension creating situations. Remain peaceful and avoid rows and criticism. Try to think of interesting things you can contribute to this sad home. They need not be expensive--do small jobs around their home. Often people who are sad are also too depressed or in pain to keep the place clean and comfortable. Cook the things they like: men who are ill don't always look after themselves and don't eat right--but they do appreciate it if there is a few of their favorite dishes around for them. Buy an inexpensive present--something that will interest them such as a magazine about his favorite sport. Learn to distract: play a game of cards or chess with your boyfriend, his Dad and their buddies: often the friends begin to break away and stop coming if there is no joy in the place--but if you rent a movie, bake some goodies and then get out the cards and a beer--life doesn't seem so bad. They may not say much but when illness comes---sick people LONG for their friends and happy times. As the Beatles used to sing `Love Is All You Need'. By the way, don't criticize me for saying `get out the cards and beer'... Yes, giving up drink is the best thing when you have a life, and a future and health to look forward to. But (if his doctor isn't against it) I am not one to deprive a dying person of things he might find comfort in. Just love them both.

Sometimes the best thing is to just be there when he needs you. Talk to him about the money issues, but always be there if he needs a shoulder

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