Just diagnosed w/ HSV. Needing to learn to accept, and come to terms. Any suggestions? Ty. :)?

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There are actually several support groups online if you want to become a part of that. Here are a few links to some:
http://www.herpes.com/
http://www.herpes.org/

It is going to take you a while to accept that you have something that there is no cure, believe me. It took me a good 6 months (at least) to accept that I have genital herpes and that I'll have to live with it the rest of my life.

As for future relationships and sex, you should have no problem! Herpes is VERY common. According to the CDC (Centers For Disease Control & Prevention) 1 in 4 women have genital herpes, and 1 in 5 men have it! That's A LOT of people!

I have dated several guys throughout the last few years and every single guy I have dated STILL chose to date me after I told them I had genital herpes. There are ways of preventing the spread of it, you just have to take more precautions. I know not every person is as accpetting as the men I have dated, some can be REALLY rude for that matter, but there are plantly of guys and girls out there that would date a person with genital herpes.

I am currently in a great relationship with my fiance. We are both healthy and happy and not to mention have a great sex life. It's possible to be happy and healthy with herpes!

I personally think herpes isn't that bad. I honestly can say I think it is one of the better STDs to have (if a person has to have one of course). It won't kill you like HIV/AIDS or untreated syphilis. It doesn't cause sterility or infertility like untreated spyhilis, gonorrhea, and chlamydia can. And, it doesn't cause cancer like HPV. HPV is a horrible STD! I have not only had genital herpes for over 5 years, but I have also had HPV for 5 years. I developed cervical cancer from it at 17 years old! It was awful! Don't get me wrong about herpes though, the sores can be very painful! But, they heal!

If you want to talk you can email me if you'd like. Take care!

The diagnosis is enough to make you come to terms with it. It is reality and now you have to make the best of a bad situation and not make it worse for yourself.

First, learn from your mistakes.

Second, get in a support group and know that you are not alone with this.

Third, it is something you will always have to be truthful with from now on with anyone you have sexual contact with.

Fourth, it is not the end of you life, nor is it the end of you sexual desires. There is treatment for it and you will follow the treatment plans or suffer the consequences.

This should by far make you a smarter person and not make you withdraw at all.

It has been a proven fact that safe sex is the best sex to have if you are going to have it before marriage. More people need to wake up and realize this.

Your body has to adjust to the virus and it can go dormant and never re-appear again, but the new strain of HSV II is much more complicated.

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