Im 34 weeks pregnant,and my mother inlaw wants to stop with us?
Question:
Am i wrong to say i dont want her to stay?..i have 3 other children and her hygiene is a lot to be desired (not washing hands after loo etc!).even with all her problems she is still is not very hygienic..please advise me as i am really scared!
Answers:
Show your husband and your MIL this article. Tell your MIL, "NO!! " No visits, nothing until she gets the all clear. ESPECIALLY in the light of her lack of basic hygiene.
http://www.raisingkids.co.uk/todaysnews/...
If you should somehow catch it whilst pregnant, then your baby has a fairly good chance of catching it from you as well :
http://www.healthcarea2z.org/ditem.aspx/...
I am not trying to be alarmist, but why go where you don't need to go? If your MIL works in a nursing home, she already knows she should not be near a newborn knowing she is a carrier right now.
Put your foot down, say no. Tell your doctor and have him/her explain to your husband how this is absolutely a terrible idea. He needs to be a man and tell his mum, NO!
You are being perfectly reasonable.
If she is still testing positive for MRSA then if she moves in, you need to move out.
Good grief. say no! Simple as that really. You have enough on your hands without having someone else to worry about. You will be forever cleaning up after her and washing things down, not to mention the risk of spreading MRSA amongst the family. Be tactful, make excuses, be nice but firm, say you havent got the room, say you dont need any help, get your husband to talk to her, but dont give yourself more work!
This should be something to discuss with your husband and your husband should break the news to her that right now is not a good time. Your husband should also tell her the best time to stay with you would be a few months after the baby is born. It's a stressful time for your family right now and that you can't accommodate to anything else at the moment.
Make sure that with whatever you or he says, it should be about what your family needs right now, what you expect from ANYONE at the moment like; temporary help, short visits, card greetings, etc...but another person living with you is out of the question. Don't make it an issue that she's the "dirty mother-in-law," it's just that it will be another person in the house and you can't handle that.
Stress the appreciation of short visit, and temporary help a few short hours once in a while every week. But a home stay or stop, like you say, is out of the question.
put your foot down and say no, your family's health is a priority here
but on the other hand, what would you do if it was your mother instead?
Tell your husband to tell her the Doctor has informed
them she must not be in contact with pregnant
or nursing mothers plus she should not be in
permanent contact with children.Tell him to also have a word
with the doctor who is treating her,get him on
your side quick before things go to far with her.
Okay, I've had MRSA from a stay in hospital, and I know that once I've had it, I'm more likely to get it again in the future. Even though I am clear of the disease now, if at any point I go into hospital again I have to inform the nurses of my past and will be put straight into a single room rather than a normal ward, as it can come back just like that.
I was sent home from hospital without the all-clear (they needed the beds I guess), but the fact is that my family were never at risk - only if they had open wounds or broken skin the bacteria could get into. That is usually how you catch it. Your chances of catching it from other means are pretty remote, you've as much chance catching MRSA from the toliet seat as you have of catching HIV or AIDS. Keeping a good hygiene routine is very important though - using a different towel or flannel from everyone else and having a shower every day.
If your mother-in-law isn't keeping to these rules, then it is probably wise that you don't let her visit. Your newborn baby will be far more at risk than your elder children as its immune systems won't be as high. There's nothing to be scared of though. When the nurse first told me I had MRSA my first thought from reading 'The Sun' was "My god, people die from that. I'm doomed!", but like any virus or illness there are different strains of MRSA, and mine was one of the less-dangerous ones. She's not a leper or anything and the only real danger is to herself, not to those around her. It sounds like she really needs to look after herself more, but surely the hospital and/or her doctor have told her that already...
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