Would you date someone with herpes??
Question:
How you would you react if you met someone and have had a great time with after a few dates told you they had herpes. They said they got it from a former girlfriend. He is taking Valtrex and sex wouldnt be an issue for now because we have both agreed to not have sex until we are married. We both have had sex in the past but have decided to change our ways. Knowing all of this how would you react?
Answers:
I don't think I would want to deal with the risk -- herpes is very serious of contracted by you (dealing with pregnancy/childbirth in particular).
I think it was mature and responsible of him to tell you now -- but if it's only been a few dates, I would get out while it wasn't as much of an attachment.
Well, since sex isn't a sacred experience for either of you, I guess I would just consider if getting herpes is worth it. I would probably continue searching for someone else without an STD.
it depends on how much you care for and trust this person. Valtrex and acyclovir do not prevent the spread of the disease, only the outbreaks. Men usually have few symptoms, if any. You can have a healthy relationship with someone and not pass herpes, you just have to be careful. You have to use condoms every time.
When it comes to getting pregnant, herpes can slightly decrease female fertility, but has little effect on men. If a woman has herpes and gets pregnant, she will most likely have a c-section to prevent the spread of the disease to the baby, but usually only if there is a noticable outbreak at the time of delivery.
if i really loved him
Speaking from a logical point of view here. When you marry someone, it generally means that children are on your mind. Any chance that you could pass this VIRUS on to a child should be first and formost on the mind. Also, herpies has no cure. Some people also react to herpies more than others. If your partner has almost no side effects, you don't know how your resistance is going to handle it. The Virus can mutate and you could wear this mistake on your face as well as other areas. I have many medical people in my family and it isn't worth it.
Hell no! I'd run like the wind!
I can handle cold sore type herpes around the mouth. However, there is NO WAY I would date someone with herpes downstairs. There are way too many fish in the sea. Move on.
Herpes is something real serious you shouldnt be that much around with him because there is chances you might get herpes as well so be careful!!
no
I would say it doesn't matter. If you don't want to have sex again until you're married, it's not an issue until you decide you do want to marry this guy. And if it gets to the point where you choose to spend the rest of your life with this guy, precautions to prevent you from getting infected can be taken. Taking Valtrex daily, using condoms, not having sex during an outbreak...it'll take a little extra work but if he's the right one wouldn't it be worth the effort? I've noticed that so many people on here act like people with an STD aren't as "worthy" as they perceive themselves to be since they're "clean". Who do they think they are? No one chooses to have herpes-it happens. If the guy was great, I'd stick around and see where it goes, and since there's no pressure for sex, I wouldn't worry about it.
As far as passing it to your family...you won't. It's spread by contact, and I seriously doubt your children will come into contact with your genitals. As far as childbirth goes...if you did happen to contract herpes, the ob/gyn would do a visual check for an outbreak-if you had one you'd have a cesarean as opposed to a vaginal birth. You could choose to have a c-section as an extra precaution as well.
Just remember, this guy is still who he is, and that's what should come first.
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