Some ideas please?
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The internet could provide him with an interest,YouQA.com being a prime example. Surprising how many E friends you can get in touch with.
Hope this doesn`t sound too simplistic.Good luck.
How about introduce him to YouQA.com !
gosh poor thing. is he not getting any support from a charity - if not he needs to find a relevant one, there will be support groups and things. but just off the top of my head, he could learn to play the piano or paint or write a book.
He needs to get out of the house! Search for depression and/or wheelchair-bound support groups in the area. He needs to be with people who have been through similar situations and have learned how to cope.
To get him talking to others about his situation, try a Toastmasters group. I know quite a few disabled people who have turned out to be fantastic leaders and speakers in an environment where everyone is taken to be equal.
if he's still able bodied above the waist, try and encourage him to take up a sport of some kind, wheelchair athletes compete in many different sports
if there is a community center where you live see if they have wheelchair basketball or he can take up swimming. my mother lost her arm in a car accident in january of 01 and it made her want to go back to school and become a teacher. maybe he can go to school for something hes always been interested in, like cooking or computers
He needs help really...maybe you should get a councillor out , this must be really difficult for him, I cannot imagine what it must be like and am so sorry to hear of this accident. Keep your son around him as much as possible, watching his son grow will give him a sense of purpose, to be there and be the best parent possible to his child. And the what is more uplifting then the presence of a child? If this doesn't help, get a councillor for that extra nudge.Wish you all the best. Keep positive around him!
he leaves alone? i think you should visit him. for god's sake we are humans and we should be patient and kind to other people when they need us. cheer him up by bringing his fave food, mags, newspapers. take your sons there. if he wants go for a walk together with the wheelchair. don't leave him alone.
Contact your local Social Services department and talk with them about what is happening with your husband, they should be able to hook him up with programming that can help him deal with what he's going through.
The gentleman needs therapy for his depression and occupational therapy to empower him to care for himself. He shouldn't be allowed to remain isolated and sink further into depression. He should be going outside of his home and should be involved in group sessions. A caregiver/home health aide would be ideal for him and could take him out on a regular basis in addition to providing assistance with the daily activities of living. He or his wife should contact his former Social Worker at the last facility he was in to get help and advice with this. His depression is very normal and expected after such an injury.
Sounds like first of all he is going to need some therapy or counseling to learn to cope with his condition. Obviously this is a very traumatic thing for him and this would send most people into a depression. But if he needs suggestions for how to occupy his time. He may want to look into going back to school (or taking online courses) to perhaps learn a new skill. You don't say what he was doing before, but despite this injury, there are still many things he can do to remain a productive member of society. Reading would be another good option for him. Actually, since he still has use of his upper body, there are plenty of options available to him.
iam very sorry to hear about his tragic accident. but you need to refer it to your Doctor.it obvious he need counselling i wish you well.
possibly learn to work at crisis center,with phone skills, maybe save a life, or visit lonely people at a hospital, even write his thougths and feelings down , could be a best seller. hope he hangs in there.
omg I am so sorry. I think there is a danger that he will interpret anything you suggest as being patronising, so it might be better if he could meet other people in his position and then he will see that he can still do almost anything he wants, including go back to work. Is he musical or is he good with his hands or can he teach some skill? Cant really advise you on anything specific as I dont know his interests. You need to find him some sort of support network before he wastes the rest of his life vegging out in front of the tv.
Thats so tragic. But its not about keeping occupied. He needs time to come to terms with whats happened and to learn to accept his new limitations. The best thing is for him to still get out, and it would be ideal if he could meet and befriend others that are in a similar situation, or people who are also paralysed and still live life to the full to show him that it doesnt mean this is the end of his life. Then he can do what he wants.
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