What do you do if you dont want your mom find out you have been doing sexual stuff with your boyfriend?
Question:
were doing sexual stuff one night and
i had 2 close friends there with us but they were in another room anyways it got out about us doing stuff and now just about everyone knows what do if my parents find out
do i deny it or tell the truth
if i tell the truth my parents wont let me ever see him again and were in love.
what do i do
Answers:
If you were truly in love that sexual stuff can wait. Love isn' t about sex.
If you were mature enough to be doing that stuff you wouldn't need to be sneaking around. Let me ask you this: Are you and your boyfriend responsible enough to deal with the consequences of sex? Say a baby? Or a sexual transmitted disease?
If you lie to your parents if they confront you about it, that tells everyone that you're not ready to accept the responsibilities of "sexual stuff."
Tell them.
well; i you really dont want them to know.
then you should probably stop.
you could pregnant or a diesease!!
and they are probably gonna find out eventually anywaays!!
i just deny deny deny...nothing really else you can do
ur not in love...grow up..talk to ur mom..shes more important to u no matter what. shell still love u none the less.
why is this in the skin condtions section?...Anyway, i would just tell them the truth.
Be discreet!
if they find out, tell them the truth...really, i know it's going to sound harsh, but if you are hiding something then you recognize it might be incorrect. think about that before you jump off in a physical relationship you aren't ready for....
Tell them that you were just making out and rumors got spread. tell them before they found out. Come home all upset one day because people are "telling lies about you".
...But I'm not condoning sex by minors. Be careful! Make sure you're old enough to make an informed decision about what you're doing. Unexpected diseases and pregnancies are not so great at your age!
I think you should talk to your mother about it. Obviously you're young or else it wouldn't matter what your parents thought. So, my suggestion is talk to your mom about birth control. If you're going to have sex with your boyfriend (regardless of what your parents want), you should have safe sex.
Like I told my son who is 16: "If you're too young to be a father, she's too young to be a mother - use a condom."
Thats a tough one, but here's what I would do. If it comes around to your parents about what you were doing before you tell them yourself, its gonna suck.bad. For both you and your parents. First of all, your parents are not likely to trust you with any responsiblities for awhile (i.e. car, phone, grounding, etc) If you suck it up and decide to go ahead and be honest with them and just tell them yourself, your parents are likely to trust you more and your punishment will probably not be as harsh. Don't get me wrong, your parents are gonna be pissed, but in the long run they will respect you more and they will greatly appreciate your honesty, it also shows just how mature you are. If you just wait for them to find out and deny it, you're gonna end up looking like a scared, immature little girl who doesn't know what she's getting herself into. Also you mentioned you were"in love". I just wanna make sure you are aware that sex does not, nor does it ever equal love. Keep that in mind, and be careful.
The best possible thing you can do is talk to your Mother about it in a calm, rational and mature manner. Tell her you understand that she disagrees with you on the matter and that you respect her feelings on the subject. If she feels that she can trust you, you will have much more freedom. Whatever you do, don't get emotional or raise your voice. Accept whatever punishment she doles out, and when the storm passes you can find a way to see him again. Which will be MUCH easier than if you get all typically teenage about it.
You need to be honest with your parents if they ask. The very best thing you can do is be honest, show them they can trust you and the things you say. They might suprise you if you tell the truth, by trusting you more than you think! That said, regardless of what happens, remember they are always looking out for your best interest, however frustrating it is.
How old are you? If you're under 16 like I think, maybe you should rethink not telling your parents. Are you using birth control? Condoms? Pills?
If you tell your mom at least, she won't have to hear about it from someone else. Maybe she will deny you the right to see your b/f, maybe she won't, but what she can do is get you protection to keep you safe from diseases and unwanted pregnancies. You said sexual stuff, but you never said what kind of sexual stuff. Was it outright sex or were you two playing around, but not doing the actual act?
I seriously think you should tell your parents yourself and get protected. If you can';t tell them, tell someone who can help you get that protection. Even if you aren't having straight out sex yet, if you're experimenting, sooner or later you will and you CAN get pregnant the first time, you can get pregnant if the boy pulls out and you can get pregnant even if you stand on your head (Old wives tales I've heard that aren't true).
Anyway, if you can't tell your parents and they hear about it, and IF it were me, I'd probably deny it. However, if you deny it, you can't get help that you need and they won't believe you anyway. Tell the truth, keep their trust and get help and guidance. Parents often seem like they are nuts, but I'm sure your mom and dad would rather know you're having protected sex than to suddenly find out one day that they are going to be Grandparents because you lied and didn't get protection. Think carefully before you make your decision. No matter what anyone else says, this is all up to you to decide and only you know what your parents are like.
good luck.
I surely wouldn't lie about it to them because they are you care givers from the day you were born and they have the right to know. but it would be a good idea not to start experimenting with it at a "young" age because that is something that is sacred between 2 married individuals not singles just to do it. If your "boyfriend really really loved you and respected your body more than that, he wouldn't have touched you and would "wait" until you got married to him. I'm not trying to tell you how to do your life but that's the way "God" would have intended it to be. Besides fornication is a "sin" and it goes against God. Love between to wedded people God honors more. I hope I haven't offended or made you upset in any way, But I just had to say something when I saw your question.
tell the truth. If you lie and they find out then you could be in even more trouble.
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