Hwhy o why did i even bother!?
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and i would hate to aviod it and one day end up without being able to have kids for some reason..
i kept it a secret from my friends and they have found out from other girls that were also there
now im worried they will be gossiping and speculating that i actually went there becuase i had somethig or had symtoms but i didnt! what can i do now? i know they will be talking about me and it makes me so angry!
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why worry what people think. looking after your own health is more important than worrying about what other people think or say.
they are the same people that do not check and may get these diseases
just tell them you cant be too careful, and say something like well why were those girls there ( if they get bitchy)
at 27 i thought it would be sensible to get everything checked out, which i did and everything was ok.
only problem was i was treaded like some sort of dirty git by the nurse as i had had unprotected sex.
never going back to be treated like that again
Your "question" was a bit confusing. Anyway.. like you said you can never be too careful. And if something is said then tell them that. A healthy vagina is a happy one!
People will always find something or someone to talk about. You did the right thing and that is all that matters. Your true friends should not judge you - forget the others.
If they ARE talking about you,I'd mention why u were there,and then slip in this: " I also saw ( names of the other girls),and wonder why THEY were there?"
That will take the focus off you then.Good for you for being safe too. :)
Firstly if they are your freind they will not laugh but be concerned. Secondly atleast ur being safe by going for a check xx
hi. first of all, good on you for going, you've obviously got a sensible head on your shoulders. don't forget as you say 'other' girls told your friends. some might gossip but your true friends'll keep the shtum...if they're true friends. does your boyfriend know? he might question why you went if he didn't know. I'd love to ask more questions but I'll be getting too personal. so I'll just wish you the best of luck and hope all stays hush.
People love gossip.
Pre-empt all that gossip by telling all your friends yourself that you went there as a precaution and that you're clean. Tell them exactly what you've just told us!
Resist the temptation to gossip about the other girls that were there; they may feel the same way you do and may be gossiping about you because they're anxious about having a STD.
Yes, having unprotected sex is foolish (in regard to one of your other questions). Driving without a seatbealt, smoking, drinking too much, and overeating are also foolish. But being foolish doesn't mean you deserve an STD, an accident, a hangover, or a heart attack. It also doesn't mean you should be judged by anyone else. However, nurses at these clinics see so many girls who return, repeatedly, with the same disease that they become frustrated and think, "Why don't these girls learn??"
I volunteer at a womans health center. I give pregnancy tests and talk to clients about sex, STDs, and childbirth. I have never been judgemental. People come to me because they want help, not judgement.
You're afraid of people making fun of you for being responsible?
Do you make fun of people you see walking out of the dentist?
Your health is very important and you are doing a great thing by taking care of yourself. If you call those people friends, I would highly consider hanging out with a different group of people.
don t listen them s and just ignore them.....
hey just laugh back at their ignorance-if they say anything just say "hey im clean but are you"
good for you for goin to the gum clinic in the first place. If there real freinds they shouldnt spread the gossip. You could tell em you went there for a pregnancy test as you heard they give the results straight away.Or tell them you have a in growing hair folicle on your bum. I have herpes and I was always trying to cover my tracks when going to the gum clinic. Good luck.
Just tell them you were getting a pap smear which every girl is supposed to get every 2 years. you were being responsible and they should all get it done too! Let them snigger and talk but at the end of the day, you're the one who's doing the right thing here!
My boyfriend and i were the first people to sleep with eachother and still we both got checked and both of us had minor infections, but infections nonetheless. people think that being faithful and never being with anyone before can avoid complications in that region, but its not so! Some people carry infections from birth, and some can just be susceptible to certain things or have gotten something from oral sex and not know. anything is possible, dont be embaressed about your good decisions!
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