Boyfriend and i broke up, then his dad passed away.?
Question:
okay, well i'm seventeen, his name is robert, we used to be very close, and we still were after two years. but now that we aren't a couple, and him grieving, what do i do, i want to be the one he leans on. i always wanted him to be able to talk to me. should i stay away? i'm not asking for him to say we're dating again. i just don't know how to tell him that i care so much about him, and his family...and i want to be there. this is so hard. i've never seen him like this. but i know it was expected. help.
Answers:
tell him exactly what you just typed. you want to be there for him because you care about him and you hate to see him hurting.
I think it is all your fault. I think you own Robert a blow job
Send the question you just wrote to him!
Just send him a note or give him a call expressing your sympathy, and explain that if there's anything you can do, you'll be there for him. But don't try to take advantage of him during this very delicate time. If he wants to come to you, he will.
Just let him know that you're aware he's going through a lot right now, but that no matter what differences you've had, you still care for him and that should he need someone to talk to or to confide in, you're there to support him.
Leave it at that.
I think it's ur fault. Especially if you let your relationship fall apart just because of his dad. My boyfriends dad doesnt like me, but he doesnt know my either. Anyway. We've been dating for 3 months and we havent let anything get in our way of being with each other. Especially not his dad. You shouldnt have let that happen.
i agree, i think you should be there. just call him up and tell him that even though you guys broke up you still really care for him as a friend. this will show that you are allowing the relationship can grow even deeper emotionally.
best of luck with everything.
The only thing I think you should do, if you haven't already, is call and say how sorry you are that his dad passed away. Let him know that you're there for him if he just needs to talk or anything. If the death was very recent, maybe bake a batch of cookies or a pie or cake, and take it to the house to offer your condolences in person to the whole family.
Then, honey, the ball is in his court. Whether he takes you up on your offer is up to him. If he doesn't call, you've done your part, and its time to move on.
That is a really tough situation for you, I'm sure. By what you're saying, I'm assuming that he broke up with you.
You shouldn't bombard him right now, and certainly give him his space.
One thing that would be thoughtful of you is to send flowers to "the entire family". He'll notice them... A relationship is the last thing on his mind, but donw the road he'll remember that gesture.
Also, without pushing YOUR agenda, send him (personally) a card that expresses your condolences, and let him know in a non-pushy, very simple way that he can talk to you any time, and that you'd be there for him if and when he needs someone.
Make it about what he's going through... Don't at all sound like it has anything to do with you. Right now it's about him.
There's no perfect answer for this, but best wishes to you.
Call him and talk to him, let him know how you feel. Good luck
okay forget the first jerk :)
but you should seriously tell him that you care for him, your not trying to get him back or hookup again, but tell him that you care. you both should still be friends; hang out & all that stuff. trust me, you'll be glad you did.
Just because you're not together doesn't mean you can't be friends. It perfectly okay to be supportive to him and his family. Just go to him.
cristine, just let robert know that your here for him as a friend, and that you care, and that your sorry for his loss. if you let him know your there for him thats what matters.
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