My wife won't lose weight?

Question:

When I met my wife she was a really hot model type weighing about 115 at 5 ft 5 but now 5 and a half years later I am thinking of leaving her as she has gained nearly 20 pounds. (Sex feels like having a cow on top of you)
How do I tell her that if she doesn't lose weight I am leaving her for someone better.

Answers:
for one its a sad and superficial world we love in. its funny how a guy can have a huge beer gut and we love them anyway on the other hand we gain and your ready to split quick and in a hurry. if you married her for her looks then you will be doing her a favor by leaving.

Dont let the door hit you on the way out.

o, boy, just tell her. losing weight will be good for her health as well as for her appearance. just tell her that u find fat women appauling. but do not put an ultimatum from the beginning. just ask nicely

20 pounds?! like how in the hell is that FATT!. and besides looks like u dont love her so just leave anyway .. lesser damage now .. so goodluck with ur superficiality and shallowness!

One question for you, do you look exactly the same way you did when she met you. And also, maybe you should adjust your way of thinking, because a woman that ways 135 at 5ft 5, isn't anywhere near being a cow.

If you would leave your wife over 20 pounds I think she needs to look for someone better.

At 135, and her height, she is far from fat.yeah, maybe she isn't as toned as you would like, but instead of leaving her, maybe you should try to work out with her or take some "extra" walks after dinner. You know what...better yet, leave, some other guy will be fine with her size!

you do not deserve to be married, and why does skinnier = better?

I am praying for your wife that before you can destroy her self-esteem with your ridiculous ultimatum, she leaves YOU for someone better! And frankly, it doesn't sound like that would be too much of a challenge!

how do you tell her? thats the funniest question have ever heard considering you already thinking of leaving her. you+ leaving is worse for her than you+ anything else . tell her like this: open your mouth , move yer lips, and then blah.

Don't give her an ultimatum, if you are such an as$hole, just leave, she'll be better off without you. So much for true love and those vows you took, huh? And I guess you yourself must be perfect. Good Luck finding that perfect girl who will always look a certain way you want, in fact, here's what you do. Go to Toys R Us, go to the doll section, get a Barbie doll, you can pick hair color, eye color, get what you want since you seem to be so picky. Take your doll home and cuddle with that. But you might want to leave it in the box, as soon as you take it out a hair might get out of place or she might lose a shoe, then she won't be so perfect anymore, and since you like perfection you'll have to throw her away and go buy a new doll. Kind of like how you are about to throw your wife away.

just print this out & hand it to her, with my reply.
so she can let me know when the funeral is.

Good luck. You are enjoying a woman as well as a cow at the same time.

u r an asshole u luv outer beauty not inner beauty i was also a model type 63 kgs 5,6 ,fair and beautiful.this was 6 years back.but u know what now i m 91 kgs but my husband loves me more than anything in this world.i m really very lucky that god has given me him.and i pity ur wife that she got an asshole.i wish i meet ur wife and advise her to leave u before u leave her.

You're calling her a cow and she only weighs 135 ibs and your leaving her cause of that? I think you should leave, she'd be far better of without you.

Just leave your wife. She will be better off without you.

wow dude you hit a nerve didn't ya? one thing i learned in life is, never talk to women about weight issues

Do you have kids together? When you got married was is not in sickness and in health? Didn't you know that once she starts having kids her body weight might change?
People are different, some people whether they eat less or not, they just gain weight. others can eat a lot but never gain weight.
Surely you can device some means or take her to a dietitian rather than leaving her. or probably uv just seen someone and now you are comparing her with that someone.

You need to grow up and smell the coffee, bubba.
Your wife isn't 'fat' at 5' 5" and 135. I'm 5' 4" and 125 and I'm considered to be on the light side of normal. Most charts I see say I should weigh between 130 and 140.
But if you think she's fat, then in your eyes, she is.
How are you looking these days?? Did you gain any weight over the years? Maybe she 'chunked up' because you did.
Try suggesting that you both go a diet because you're worried about your health.
You don't mention how old you two are, it could be a natural weight gain because of age. We all seem to slip on a few pounds as we age whether we work out or not.

she is the one who needs to find someone better.i hope she losses the weight and leaves you thats what u deserve

She probably married you because she felt sorry for you, so don't bother trying to "find someone better". Someone like you will end up on his own anyway.

Your wife is not fat at all - she'll find someone so quickly and you can sit at home and regret your decision.

So you fell in love with a body and not the spiritual being within.

Please leave her. It is the best thing you could ever do for her. When you do know this. She will loose the weight for herself because she will find some sence of happiness within her and have some of her life back. Food does not make people fat..emotions do. This poor woman does not have to look good to suit everyone else. She knows where shes at, and she probably tries very hard and just fails you, because she is not able to make a choice to do it for herself.

I was once a 'beached whale' at 25 years old apparently according to my ex hubby. Eventually re- marrying to my best friend. He also had 'eyes' for the slim, but never once pressured me. Today, I am 43 yrs old and because of his eternal love I lost over 38 kilos (2.2lbs to a Kilogram) and did not do it with diet. I lost 38 kilos over 38 months, 1 kilo a month and it has never returned, even when I have been emotionally hurt in fact I now loose wait due to stress and have to make sure I 'do' eat.

Love and happiness brings balance to the body. I have proved it after years of doing diets for every one else. My Wedding Present from my first husband was 6 months at Jenny Craig.

Blah.

Go ahead and leave her.You sound like the biggest JERK in here.obviously your wife deserves someone much better than your scabby @$$. Sex isn't the only thing marriage is about, I take it you didn't marry her for love. Typically man.it's guys like you that make women hate the race of men. Please let the door hit your punk @$$ on the way out.

If you consider her a cow at this size she would be better off without you. On your way out don't let the doorknob hit you where the god lord split you!

how about yourself? are u the same as you were 5 yrs ago?
maybe she thinks the same about u..!

So did u just marry her for her looks or did u marry the person herself? Remember that she has to lose the weight for herself, not for anyone else, otherwise it won't work.

With that said, u can try to be constructive about it instead of being critical. Maybe u can convince her to join a gym with u or find a physical activity u both can enjoy and do them together. U should make it a team effort, instead of just telling her to do it herself because losing weight is not easy for everyone.

I thought I was superficial.

First of all, if she is 135 and 5ft5, then she is hardly overweight or a 'cow'. Secondly if you actually married your wife because you loved her and not because you thought she looked hot, then it wouldn't matter to you if she gained some weight. You are obviously a very superficial, empty person and to make it easy for you, you should should just leave and let her find a 'real' man. Trust me, you will never find better, because you'll always make the same mistake in finding some hot chick with a nice rack and then complain when her beauty fades. You are going to end up a very miserable old man, do you realise that? I'm sure your wife can do a hell of a lot better than someone as ugly inside as you. HTH.

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