What should I do?

Question:

My mom's kind of overweight. And I get a little annoyed that she isn't doing anything about it. And once she lost a lot of weight (about 20-35 pounds), and then during the holidays she of course went off of it. And she says she want's to get back on. But never does. I don't want to hurt her feelings. But I wanted her to be ok. What should I do? I really don't want to be like "Hey, you're on a diet, now." But I don't want to be like "Hey, you wanna go on a diet? It's okay if you don't. I'll understand.". I REALLY don't want to say anything to her. But I want her to be healthy. I think that if she sets her mind to it (which she's done before) she can do it. And I also think she nees some moral support (which I AM prepared to give). But how can I get her to start, without telling her to OR letting it be her choice?? Get what I'm saying? PLEASE HELP!

Answers:
That's great that you want to help your mom! I think being upfront with your mom will be best, just let her know that you love her and you want the best for her and you're worried about her, and with your help you want to help her get on track this way you both can work together from the start and she'll probably appreciate how much you care and that you can come to her and talk to her.
However if you really really really don't want do to that, perhaps you can try to do things to get her motivated, maybe you could put in suggestions for dinner (really healthy and properly proportioned) if you like to cook maybe take over and play chef. When its really nice out side ask her to take a walk with you around the block for some mother daughter time. If you've done this before you can and seem to be really ready to do it again. You know what worked for her and what she needs to do.
You both can go on a diet together. (not saying that you need to loose weight but eating healthy is great for everyone, ditch the fast food and keep up with your mom.) If she sees you doing good stuff for your body she will probably do the same. I stopped eating fast food a while back. Haven't had any in 6 months now. It was something I did for me, not to loose weight but to get healthier. Now over time, my room mate, my boyfriend and my co-workers have all done the same thing! And all i did was mention that I've gone so many months with out. I didn't even suggest it to either one of them. My boyfriend can spend all day sleeping in and watching TV and playing with his laptop, this bothers me to no end. I have to go do something. I make it fun - hey lets go for a hike, lets go take the dogs to the park! He does it and we both have a good time. Hope you can get your mom motivated! Honestly I'd sit down and talk to her, or start getting her to go on walks and one day bring it up in a way that doesn't confront her.
Good Luck and hope this helps! Sorry i kept rambling on!

diet with her, healthy eating is for everyone and forgive her if she messes up and do a life plan so she can stay on it the rest of her life above all control your anger and disappointment with her

I agree. Pretend that you are going to go on a diet and ask her to be your diet buddy. I am going through the same thing with my mom who has diabetes.

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