Is it wrong for you step grandma to call you overweight?
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since you explained it well, it wasn't wrong that your step grandmother called you overweight. she's just concerned. of course, i'd consider the exact way she'd say it to you. if she says it in a jeering way, saying it just to make you feel bad about yourself, then perhaps she's in the right. if she's concerned with you, well, anybody who's truly concerned with you wouldn't say it in a hurtful way, right? but if her true intentions are to help you lose weight, then you should talk to her.
since you mentioned depression, talk to your whole family, especially your grandmother. tell them in a loving way that you know that you are over the healthy weight for your height and age, etc. Do they know HOW you feel when you hear them telling you to slim down? Because words aren't enough for this. ACt upon it: have a change of lifestyle - whoever provides you with these fatty kinds of food should stop.
But this depression thing is the root of your problem, right? It's time you take care of your inner self first because when you start feeling good about yourself, that's the best time you can take care of your physical self. Get to the root of the problem first - depression. If you aren't so depressed, you can concentrate on losing weight more.
Best!
Tell them to piss off and make yourself happy. Eat what you want but just do it in portions. If you're happy at your weight then it's none of their business.
And Leroy can suck it.
Yes, this is really not nice. My grandmother called me fat and have man boobs. It always tore me up inside. I always wished I could ask her to stop, but I didn't want to hurt her feelings. Then she died, and ever since then I wish I could have told her so that she knows how I felt and I could come clean. NMow I can never come clean and it hurts inside.
I personally think you shoudl tell her that it hurts you ALOT!
Good Luck,
aw, it's okay . yes, it's wrong for them to say that, but remember, they might just be concerned about your health. they might be misunderstanding you and think you're depressed because of your weight, and will feel better about yourself if you bring it down. but remember, no matter what you say, you're beautiful :)
This is not about your feelings anymore, this is all about your health! Being over-weight now, does not mean you have to be over-weight forever! Few months of work, and you will be again your healthy self!
I think it's rude for anyone to hurt someone else's feelings.
first off how old are you? i think we ladies all go through a stage that realistically we are going to be chubby and that's aokay! if you are that age just ignore her... you'll slim down without trying! if you are past that age... my suggestion would be two things... keep your head on straight and KINDLY straighten her out! i agree that it is super hard to lose weight when you are depressed about it because usually depression will make you eat more... so instead, think of it like this: weight management is a challenge and a journey! enjoy the challenge! make it fun. when you are going to eat something, think to yourself weather or not it supports your goals before you eat it. and think about that goal EVERYDAY! picture yourself as the weight you want to be and "the law of attraction" states that you will just naturally create that for yourself! (makes it MUCH easier and less discouraging/depressing) exercise will also battle the depression.
as for step grammy... remember that even though she is being innapropriate and discouraging, to always try to treat people the way you want to be treated... battle her negativity with some positive responces. "hey i'm really flattered that you are concerned for my health. i'm actually working really hard. i appreciate your encouragement" (even though she's not being encouraging if you pretend she is... she will be because you've led her to believe that she is!
for mom: maybe ask her if the two of you could join the gym together, and practice making healthier recipes. when i got my mom to join the gym with me, our relationship hit a whole new level. she and i got healthier together and encouraged each other. turn it into a family thing. (if you can) and aside from that see grammy: turn it into a positive. "thanks mom! i appreciate your support! it's not easier, but i know that i am getting better!"
warning: remember that a lot of times when you do start to lose weight, those people who were demeaning you to lose it will often become "green monsters" (jealous) and they will discouarge your efforts. if you catch them offering fudge and ice cream down the road, remember to again keep it positive, "wow that looks great!! thank you anyway, but i'm not very hungry right now!" or a joke, "oh you know i gotta watch the old figure! don't wanna get pudgy like you guys!" ;) good luck. i know it's hard when your family isn't supportive. i had to teach my mom that broccoli was a better way to show love than ice cream! took a few years for her to really get it, but now... i hope that you can come to the same place one day.
deepest empathy, and undertanding... stay healthy! (that means mentally too!)
Ask her if she thinks you're stupid or blind. No, tell her that you are aware and you're working on it. Tell her that you know she's responding out of concern, but that she is hurting your feelings. Then ask her to stop mentioning your weight. If she doesn't, tell her that she makes you feel badly and you don't want to be around her. Then follow through on that. She'll come around
You sound like a real nice kid. Too bad your step grandma is on your case.
One day ask her to tell you how she kept slim when she was your age. Really listen to what she says so you can understand where she is coming from. Telling her you are feeling depressed obviously means nothing to her, so stop talking to her about it. When she tells you everything she has to say, just thank her and tell her you will try to do as she did.
I eat too much of the wrong things because they temporarily make me feel better. I know where you are coming from. Try to get your doctor to refer you for therapy. It probably won't stop you from overeating, but you will be able to start working on coping with your depression.
Good luck kiddo! Keep your chin up!
The key word there is 'step' no real love there.. unless you have known her for long time and truly love her.. don't worry about it.. all that matters is how you feel about yourself, not what others think of you.. feelings are very important.. and .. if your mom weighs more than you do, she should not be saying things that would hurt your feelings.. gees.. but tell her that.. just say 'hey mom, why do you say that? it hurts my feelings' maybe she don't know that.. maybe she don't want you to be like her... I tell my daughter that too.. I am like 'hey Sarah, keep eye on your butt.. or it will look like mine' haha.. but. is different.. because have built my daughters self esteem very high in her life. she is definitely ok with herself.. talk to your mom.. don't listen to step grandmother if you only known her for 2 years... she don't count..
I personally think that your mom and step Grandmother are assholes! Don't pay any attention to them because you won't always be overweight so keep your head up!
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