What do I tell a 13 year old girl who wants to STARVE herself?
Question:
she has just salads all day.
what can i say to make her not do this and to lose weight in a healthy way?
how can i convince her that this is so bad?
Answers:
Eating salads all day isnt starving yourself.
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She could die, make her stop
Show her the photoshopped images of those girls who are basically just skeletons with skin.
Ask her if she wants to be like that.
...If she does, you need to tell her parents to send her to therapy.
tell her people are so superficial- this is thge only way to be beautiful!
no just kidding- tell her she can achieve a thin heathy weigth and a boosted metabo by eating small frequent meals an dcutting out junki and sugar.
Go to www.youtube.com and type in child anorexic..there's a BBC documentary on what happens to little girls who stop eating and enter long term treatment plans. If you seriously think she's considering it then you should make her watch it.
Tell her that when you starve yourself and when you actually do eat your body freaks and collects all it can get and stores it has fat cells for safe keeping later if you decide to do it again. This is very true too! But in a less elaborate explanation.
This happened to me when i was younger. I had no clue what to tell my friend either...but the end result was that when she stopped eating the salads she gained all the weight back and realized that it wasn't the correct way to lose weight. Just tell her that if you do this and then go eat regular foods that she will gain all the weight back and more and that she's slowing her metabolism when doing this...
You should talk to her parents she will be mad at you at first but she will forgive you this could turn in to a serious eating disorder
her parents will know what to do because she won't listen to you if you tell her to stop she needs to be educated about what can happen to her and to her body.
Tell her to see a nutritionist, who can help her make a healthy plan to lose weight, this may be an emotional/mental/physical problem perhaps a trip to a Dr.
Tell her that she looks like a dead body and she has already lost the glow on her face and tell her the fact that actors have 5-6 little meals per day in order to lose weight.Dieting is not the way to lose weight.And comeon!Your are a parent,she is not.Try to be a little strict with her.
tell her if she is serious about losing weight she has to do it the healthy way. encourage her by saying that you want to be healthy to and suggest that you start eating healthy together. you can also workout together.
ugh you need to show her the ugly truth about what shes doing to herself.
you need to scare it out of her.
its ridiculous that shes only 13 and concerned about her weight!
show her this:
http://youtube.com/watch?v=olrj0p1lym4...
http://youtube.com/watch?v=vay-vzrfnso&m...
does she really want to LIVE in a hospital?
talk to her about that
the consequences are awful.
saying "no, thank you" to food means "yes, please" to death.
u tell her that she could kill herself and that all she needs to do is eat small amounts of food that are healthy every day and exorcise for 45 min everyday and when i say small amounts i mean like a chicken leg,2 or 3 table spoons of rice a few fruits, for one meal but she should eat 3 meals each day know Wat i mean.a sandwich for lunch Wat i wrote above for dinner special k for break feast. and some crackers for a snack or oatmeal and maybe fruit for desert not a lot and she should exorcise more than Wat she ate to lose weight
tell her unless she wants to look like this: http://www.flickr.com/photos/qwazy/26945...
she better start eating more
tell her that not eating sucks. you will always look and feel unattractive. trust me, i starved myself for 2 years--and i never want to do that again. i was really skinny--like 40 lbs underweight, and guess what? it wasn't pretty at all. guys dont want bone bags.
Doing that would be called anorexic(?). Some severe cases can be really dangerous because her body is not getting all of the stuff her body needs to operate correctly. I'm also 13, I think that girls usually get self conscious around puberty. You could get her to tell you her correct height and weight and do a BMI test on yahoo, it tells you if your at a healthy weight for your height. Have you ever noticed that people that are a little big end up with bigger breasts? Maybe you could convince her by telling her that. I'm really skinny because I have a fast metabolism and practically flat chested, but I just started puberty around last year. Your being a real friend by trying to help her out, but if things don't change, try talking to you school counselor they can get your friend some help if it's really needed. She'll probably get mad at you for telling somebody about it but she'll eventually get over it once she knows that you were just worried about her and wanted to try to help. I know talking to adults is uncomfortable, so try writing a note and put into their mailbox. Good Luck!
EAT! No real man is going to want to sleep with a sack of bones. They want breasts and or a butt and if she only eats salads she won't have either of those.
Tell her that she could seriously harm herself and possibly die, show her pics of girls who have starved themselves and what the ended up like. And possibly consider getting help from http://nutrition.bitwine.com?auid=23679&... its a website you can use to contact professionals online and seek help, i know it sounds severe, but even a few words with them, or even letting her talk to one could help.
hope it helps!
This is a very tough situation. There could be many causes: Peer pressure, anger, a way to make her feel powerful or to show others she is in control,or maybe she just feels it is not right to eat animals. This particular age group is so concerned with looks and they just can't understand much else.They also feel invincible at this age,nothing can hurt them. I would set aside a special day just to talk honestly with her, tell her how you feel without lecturing her. All the anorexics and being glamorized on t.v. don't help either. She needs to know that people will accept her and have more confidence in herself. She doesn't need to live up to what she sees on tv. If you go to a real crowded place like Disney Land or such, she is sure to see all kinds and shapes of people , normal people. This might put a perspective on things. If she ends up with an eating disorder , she will be left alone in a hospital bed with a stomach tube while all those people she was tying to impress go on with their lives. Unfortunately, no one can control what others do, just try to help. That's all you can do. I hope this helps.
tell her she'll get bladder and bowel problems and have to wear a diaper for life
Try and get on her side, gently. It's best not to say that it's 'bad' because she may feel she is being told off which may make her feel more dejected. We see people every day in magazines who are trying to lose weight.
One of the best things to do is to show that the people who have lost weight who are maintaining their bodymass reduction is to eat wisely, excercise relatively to their body needs (if she wants to lose weight) take it slowly. Try and forget about her peers and focus on the fact that she has a target.
If you think that she may have an eating disorder, consult a reputable organisation (usually through your family doctor) for further information. Don't mention that you are doing this to her, just do some research. Find out what the best foods are for healthy eating and losing weight within a healthy scope of eating.
It may also be that she doesn't like eating the food that other people do? It may be that she is or wants to be vegetarian or vegan?
If this is the case then there are various Vegetarian and Vegan societies out there who can assist her.
Best thing you could do is just to be there for her.
yep. i have the same thought.. but not to become anorexic.. just a little bit thinner.. im like 20 pounds over weight.. well like 5. lol well i dont really care i was just eating less not starving myself..i eat A LOT and thats why i stopped eating so much..i wanna become one of those pretty girls and i dont see myself as an obese girl..
maybe you can show her some pics of beautiful women who arent all that skinny. there are plenty out there...and not everyone has too be the same. variety is good. and she probably thinks that guys dont like chubby girls.. well i think some of them do...i guess..and is true most teens feel self conscious about themselves around puberty.. sucks being a chick...
This is a serious deal here, you don't need to talk to her you need to talk to her parents, or at least tell your parents to call hers and let them explain. She could be developing anorexia, and it's a very serious disease/lifestyle (so THEY call it.) She needs to be treated by a physician, but in the mean time encourage her to eat and tell her your her friend and you are worried about her.
Show her pictures of anorexic women. If she wants to be pretty and have kids... she needs to eat. Young girls who starve themselves can screw up their reproductive organs. Not only that, they damage their heart and decrease the length of their life.
Find a picture of an emaciated women and show her what she could look like.
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