Losing Weight?
Question:
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I have a waist of 28", and i want to lose weight, until I'm a 26" waist or less.
I need to lose weight, okay?
I know im fat.
Im much fatter than my best mate.
He's attractive and skinny.
therefore, he must be attractive BECAUSE he's skinny...
Does anyone have anyway for me to lose weight?
Any suggestions?
what should i do to try and lose some weight?
Answers:
Hi, James. Sometimes your questions worry me and I have been answering them for a few months. Before I do anything else, I am going to throw in a few facts: I make my living as a physician, in what the UK would be a paediatric consultant. I am young, more than the average consultant and the majority of my patients are your age. They love me because of the incredible rapport I have with them. We connect. That being said, you should take my advice seriously.
I don't know how you calculated your BMI. The best way is to do it with calipers by an experienced person. BUT let's assume it's close to the real number (OH and I don't know how tall you are). Your BMI falls totally within normal parameters. No question. A bit less and you will fall in the undernourished category. Athletic types have BMI's that are significantly lower, but that is because their muscle mass is large. If you are not an athlete, this won't happen. Stop looking at waist sizes. We all come in different shapes, colors and forms.just like clothes! It is my medical opinion that you are of appropriate weight. Also, dude, do you realize that if you lose weight you might actually look scrawny? Weak? You are 15 and your body is in the middle of rapid growth. You will grow taller in a matter of months and your body will change. If you intervene with that process there will be detrimental changes.
Also, you are applying the well known mathematical equation if a=b and b=c then a=c. Well, that's fine and dandy in science, but not in human beings. Your assumption that attractive=skinny is just wrong. Your mate is what he is and I bet my bottom dollar (or pound!) that he has a great personality. I tell you, I know that the majority of humans are attracted to others that are visually pleasing, but the lasting bond occurs only with those with great personalities. Love yourself. I have told you that before.
But all this weight talk is nonsense, James, you have had a fixation with weight and being disliked for some time. I KNOW it's hard to be in your position. You are love sick and lonely. I don't know how many times I'll have to tell you or how to convince you that you must start loving yourself. That you are a great mate and people are going to be attracted to you like bees to honey. But first you have got do believe in who you are. OH and by the way, a 26" waist in a man is not pretty nor it is healthy. Women's waists are smaller because of their hip structure. You'll look starved. Get that out of your brain.
You want to do something cool to feel better and improve your body? Simple: exercise. Find a sport that you LOVE and do it. Swimming, diving, running, biking, hiking, walking, soccer, basket, YOGA, Pilates, weights, there are a million choices and you are bound to like at least one. It does not have to be competitive!! Build some muscle. Watch that scale go up and up, but because you are building muscle. The endorphins released by your body as you exercise will give you a natural high and improve your mood. People will look at you and say: "Bloody James, look at him, he was cute, but now he is deadly hot!...and a great guy!"
Don't label yourself as fat or thin or ugly or pretty or whatever. Be YOURSELF! You are a fantastic person starting to learn who you are and what you want. Enjoy the ride and stop fretting! OH and if certain 'someone' is not paying attention to you, well, move along, there are plenty of other fish in the ocean, trust me!
OH-- please don't go spending your money on weight loss supplements. They suck, they are not scientifically proven to work and the only thing they'll thin out is your pocket.
Eat right! Substitute veggies and fruits for breakfast and lunch, and eat lean meat for dinner. Eat healthy snacks, and cut out sweets. Sounds drastic, yes, but it will work if you can.
If not, go to the gym. Start by walking and lifting easy weights, and build up to running, doing ab workouts, and heavier lifting.
If you don't belong to a gym or something, start walking and build up to running.
You may just need to tone your muscles some. Try exercising and you will convert the fat into muscle.
skinny men are NOT attractive, i prefer my men to be a bit beefy, i like a man with a thick neck and broad shoulders, i suggest that you cut out all the crap and junk and concentrate on joining a gym to bulk up a little, if that is not possible just try to jet plenty of exercise how about joining your local rugby club. girls find rugby players irresistable. good luck xx
To a very high degree, you should weigh as much as you feel happy with weighing.
As far as a "healthy weight", that's what most of the other posts are about (calculating your BMI, diet plans, etc). but most people will say what the "average" is according to different opinions.
As long as you are at a weight where you are healthy, the most important part is that you are HAPPY with your weight... not that you "should be X pounds", but that no matter what you weigh, you are happy with that instead of striving to be a size 2 or something like that
That being said, if you want to lose weight, exercise is a really good (and safe) way to lose weight. In addition to that, I would recommend meeting with a nutritionist or dietitian to see if there is something else that may benefit you more
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Sounds like your just eating the wrong things. When people get fat or bigger, the fat might not go to the waste or stomach. the fat might go to the legs.
if you just eat right then the weight will just drop off. i think walking is a good idea. take the stairs instead of a lift or escalator. I listen to I CAN MAKE YOU THIN by Paul Mckenna every night when i sleep. it like a trance. i have lost 2 stone and only by listening to it for a month. exercise for about 15 minute then each day gradually build it up by 10 minutes until you reach 60 minutes a day.
Good Luck =]
You don't NEED to lose weight, but if you want to better yourself just be more active and only eat when your hungry and stop eating when you feel satisfied, NOT bloated. And take this from someone who knows, you shouldn't worry about being skinny. Just be healthy. I have really bad acne on my back, so I'm really embarrassed when I take off my shirt to swim or whenever, and I have no muscle at all. But I'm happy with my inner self, who I know is a brilliant person, and if anyone got to know me they'd totally fall for me, heh heh. I hope I didn't ramble and that this helps. And a healthy BMI is 18 - 25. So don't worry so much, okay? Good luck, and you are perfect the way you are.
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