I really need help?
My mom is getting her top teeth all pulled for medical reasons (she is losing bone mass in her cheeks because of something wrong with her teeth) But she is getting them all pulled and getting dentures. She is at her appointment now and I feel she is going to be very stressed, unhappy, in pain, and miserable. I want some advice on what I should do. I am going to clean the house really well, and make her dinner. She is giong to be really upset. She is really young to be getting dentures and she is already upset that she needs them. She is getting pain pills of course but I dont know if Im going to be able to deal with her. She is miserable all the time even without getting all of her teeth pulled. Any advice will help thank you all in advance
Answers:
That's so considerate of you to want to help your Mom out like that!
While she may be stressed, unhappy, etc.. she may also be relieved that 'it's over' and she can now concentrate on something else.
Depending on how many teeth are going to be extracted will determine her 'mood'... hopefully the back teeth were already pulled and today's visit is to have the front ones taken out and her denture inserted.
She'll need follow-up visits for sore spots, so if she tells you the dentures are uncomfortable in certain areas, just tell her it isn't uncommon and she just needs a quick denture adjustment.
The denture will act as a bandaid as her gums heal. The denture will take a little time getting used to, but after a while it shouldn't be an issue.
Let her rest.and thanks for being so caring! I'm sure your Mom appreciates it!
Make sure whatever you cook is soft, and nothing spicy or acidic. Just give her time to get used to the idea. She will come around. When she gets her dentures tell her how good they look.
does a root canal hurt and how long does it take to heal?
Your mom maybe be upset at first but she needs to be positive about it. Like no more dentist bills for her or no more toothaches. My fiance is 28 and has dentures he is really inscure about it. But I always tell him that he has perfect teeth, which he does and no else knows they are fake. Sometimes you have to do what is best for yourself. Believe me your mom will be happier later on that she got it done. Especially if she had bad teeth before getting them pulled.
The best thing you can do for her is to support her, give her space, give her love and kindness and understanding. Be available for her to talk to and offer to get things for her. Give her positive feedback but do not go overboard. She needs time to accept what is happening and mourn the loss of her teeth. This is often very hard to do. Do not force the issue with her but let her know she can cry, scream talk it out, whatever she needs to do.
Reinforce to her that she is the same person she always was. Do not dodge the issue of the dentures but do not constantly reference them.
Also tell her that she did not cause this situation and that there are many many people out there who have to get dentures for medical reasons. I am one of them! People always think neglect is the only reason a person needs dentures but they know nothing about it.
Feel free to contact off the board if you or your mom have questions,
Sandy
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